First time having sex since d&c...

julieb1218

And I cry! I have been so emotional that I shouldn't be surprised but I felt so bad for my husband. I guess I just thought going without for 4 weeks would make things all hot and magical but all the feelings of our loss and having sex but having to use protection just overwhelmed me. I just needed to vent and hopefully I am not the only one who has cried after sex. Here is hoping next time the waterworks will stay at bay...

jwpbride

I was actually just getting on here to write a similar post. I was going to ask if it's normal to just not be "into it" for a while after the d&c/d&e. I mean, in my mind I wanted to, but connected to all the sex-related thoughts was the fear of getting pregnant. Not just getting pregnant when I'm not supposed to, but getting pregnant EVER. I just know that the next time I get pregnant, I'll be terrified pretty much the whole time that something is going to go wrong.

We've done it twice (my d&e was November 5th at 13 weeks) but both times I've just been thinking "Can this be over now?"... I wonder how long this will last.

fattycakes313

I'm worried about that too.  I have my D&C in a couple of hours.  This was my first pregnancy (lost at week 6, 11 weeks along) and I can't stop crying.  I know this happens a lot and it's not that uncommon but I'm scared that I will be terrified the entire time next time I get pregnant too.  I guess we will just have to stay positive and pray that nothing will happen next time.

samanthahollman

This happened to me. 

I was really excited that we got the go-ahead, and once we finished I started bawling. It was the fact that we have to start over.

We are in the clear to TTC again, and now we're having fun. But the first few times post D&C were brutal emotionally.

You are not alone, and it will get better, I promise.  

ladyprof

We actually can't get pregnant from sex, so I don't have to think about that part too much.

But my DH has been wanting it a TON because we went sooooo long without. All the way from the egg retrieval during IVF till like 3 days before the m/c when I finally thought it was "safe." And since we're doing IVF again he wants to maximize the sexy times. Which I understand and I want to give to him and make him happy, but urggggggggggh.

lotus88

I still haven't had my d&c yet, but we didn't have sex for over a week after we found out we were miscarrying. The first time we had sex I was a mess. Cried a lot, but DH was great and in a way it was almost healing. We had great sex for a week (on vacation too) after that, but now that d&c is looming I'm not as into it.