I think the stress and drama of Gma have caught up to me

Rebekah1021

She's now going to TX and I woke up feeling sick. It's my nerves, I know it is. I just don't know how much more I can take.

JOEBunny

I couldn't take it.  One of my BFF's just put her grandma in assisted living last week.  She said she didn't realize how much taking care of her was sucking the life out of her family (especially her), until she wasn't there anymore.  And she adores her grandma.  I can't imagine what it is like if you don't love them or they are crabs. 

DandelionMom

Have her children found her a place to stay yet?  I hate to say it but you might have to do it if they're not working on it.  This sounds like an impossible situation for all of you. 

Rebekah1021

Dande - she refuses to go to one. flat out refuses. We are going to wait until after this wedding, and then insist her other son and his wife come out to see what's going on. It's their daughter getting married, so I will give them the weekend.

We are planning on having a group called Homewatch  come to the houes and take care of her. They can do it for about 3k a month for 24 hour care in her home, which is what she wants and they do everything.

DandelionMom

That sucks.  GL!

AnnapolisLari

$3K a month actually sounds reasonable for the amount of care she needs. DHs ambulatory mom is in an assisted living facility for just over $4K a month down in FL, and that was one of the least expensive ones.

JOEBunny

AnnapolisLari:

$3K a month actually sounds reasonable for the amount of care she needs. DHs ambulatory mom is in an assisted living facility for just over $4K a month down in FL, and that was one of the least expensive ones.

It is more than amazing, we were paying about $12 an hour for my grandmother for 24 hour care.

Even at min. wage individual 24 hour care is $5,000 a month before you pay taxes as an employer (you don't always have to do this if it is a short term thing). 

peekaboo716

It's incredibly stressful, and not a surprise that you are feeling it (no matter how well you are handling - which, btw, I think you are doing freaking awesome!).

That home care sounds like it could be a very viable option. My gma-in-law has a similar situation with care like that. It allows her to be in her own home, but still get the care she needs.

GL!