Wedding **WWYDoOver**

ChickenLittle2010

What would you do over on your perfect day?  (Hopefully its not the groom.LOL.)

 

 

I would NOT have asked my SIL to be a bridesmaid. I had only met her once and she ruined the fun of girls getting ready because she was such a downer. (she's older and was pissed she wasn't getting married first)  I only asked her because MIL asked me too.  She wouldn't even get her hair and make up done with us. 

brookelynpaisley

I would have hired a real wedding photographer instead of using our friend who does model shoots. There are a lot of moments missing. It's taken me a long time to be even just "okay" with our pics.

ChickenLittle2010

brookelynpaisley:

I would have hired a real wedding photographer instead of using our friend who does model shoots. There are a lot of moments missing. It's taken me a long time to be even just "okay" with our pics.

We had a friend that did our wedding pics. He's a real wedding photog and gave us a package as a gift. But he also attended as a guest and he missed a LOT of shots I wish I had now. I feel your pain. Its really hard to look at others photos and realize that bits of the day are missed.  

emu0013

Honestly, our day was pretty much perfect, except for the pouring rain, lol so if I could, I would change the weather forcast....

 

 

Ruthy77

Hmmm, I had wanted to dye  my shoes RED (matched girls dresses) but everyone told me not to-that it'd be too much... Imagine that!  This was 7 years ago though... Of course 7 years ago, the girls wearing red dresses didn't go over well at first either.. Oh well....

branmuffin2112

brookelynpaisley:

I would have hired a real wedding photographer instead of using our friend who does model shoots. There are a lot of moments missing. It's taken me a long time to be even just "okay" with our pics.

as a wedding photographer...this makes me sad brookelyn 

melissa721

Different hair person and different favors.

MrsMarriedIn04

If I did it over again, I would take the money we spent and do a destination wedding with my parents, grandparents and dh's parents. I regret never taking a honeymoon afterwards. We said we would on our 5th anniversary and we are already into our 6th.

tblauvelt

I would have stuck with my destination wedding in Cancun instead of scrapping it all and eloping in Vegas. I was 4 months away from actually having it but canceled everything due being pulled by my mom and other family members on how my wedding day should go. So I said screw you all and flew to Vegas and had a wedding with just my then fiance and I. I don't get to have all the nice pics, the party, or the honeymoon, but I still have my husband. I do admit though, that I wish I had gone through with it for the memories and good laughs. A vow renewal will be in the works after a LO arrives, though.

ginger514

I would have sent out my invitations   I was so busy traveling for work, and since we had a destination wedding and knew who was coming, the whole invitation "chore" got pushed to the way back burner!

watkinae

Only 2 things....

I wouldn't have been concerned about other people's feelings when choosing the bridal party.  We didn't ask a couple friends b/c of how we thought some other friends would feel but we barely talk to those other friends now and it's only been 6 mths.

In-laws offered a gift of money toward the wedding (about 1/3 of the total budget...we covered the rest).  We could've paid for the whole thing ourselves, but accepted the gift and the in-laws thought that was their invitation to invite random people to the wedding.  And they kept bringing up that fact to my now hubby.

 Other than that, the day was beautiful!

faithita

brookelynpaisley:

I would have hired a real wedding photographer instead of using our friend who does model shoots. There are a lot of moments missing. It's taken me a long time to be even just "okay" with our pics.

 

This is my ONLY regret from our wedding too. I am doing OK with the pics now, but I still get sad when I see beautiful pro pics... luckily the officiant showed up w her own photographer who got some pretty pics during the ceremony, and I have photoshop... but I think I will always wish that we could do this over.

branmuffin2112

I would have gotten married in a smaller church...something "quaint" with character.

macy42

I would have gotten married in Maui. We went there on our honeymoon and I wish we could have shared it with our family.

GrneyedItalian

brookelynpaisley:

I would have hired a real wedding photographer instead of using our friend who does model shoots. There are a lot of moments missing. It's taken me a long time to be even just "okay" with our pics.

 

I have to agree with this.  The lady we chose was nice but in hindsight I see that she didn't get a lot of shots that I would have liked and wasn't very creative with the pictures.

Katie829

I would have gotten a different dress. As much as I loved my dress, it was so heavy and uncomfortable. With the longline bra and lace up back, I was hurting by the end of the night. Plus having DH take off my dress took like 20 minutes ha!

Also I used a family friend for a photographer and I didn't get a lot of candid style shots that I see other knotties with. 

lcking82

Oh, dear goodness....

I had major "prom hair" which is so not my style.  It just happened, and then I didn't feel like making a big deal over it.  SOoooo on do-over, I would have a sleek smooth  updo, instead of curli-Q senior prom hair.  Ugh.

 And while my photographer was super nice (and affordable), our pics are very posed and formal. Now that I look at other peoples fun, spontaneous pics, I wish we had either made it clear that I preferred the candid style or gotten a different photog.   

emu0013

ChickenLittle2010:

brookelynpaisley:

I would have hired a real wedding photographer instead of using our friend who does model shoots. There are a lot of moments missing. It's taken me a long time to be even just "okay" with our pics.

We had a friend that did our wedding pics. He's a real wedding photog and gave us a package as a gift. But he also attended as a guest and he missed a LOT of shots I wish I had now. I feel your pain. Its really hard to look at others photos and realize that bits of the day are missed.  

 Sorry to hear that.....:(

ChickenLittle2010

ginger514:

I would have sent out my invitations   I was so busy traveling for work, and since we had a destination wedding and knew who was coming, the whole invitation "chore" got pushed to the way back burner!

Okay I had to LOL at this. I completely forgot to send out invites for DS' first birthday. Everyone that was actually coming didn't need an invite. They are all sitting in a drawer addressed and everything. I'm just glad I didn't waste 50 stamps  

jchanth

1. I would have hired a different photographer. He didn't make sure we got a lot of the pics we asked him to and he lost a lot of our formal pics and pics of our toast.

2. I wouldn't have spent so much time on my hair because it put us behind for the rest of the night (my MOH and i went to cosmetology school together so she half of the girls hair and mine) 

3. We didn't make it around to all of the tables and i wish we would have (kind of goes with #2) 

ChickenLittle2010

katiebabie1110:

I would have gotten a different dress. As much as I loved my dress, it was so heavy and uncomfortable. With the longline bra and lace up back, I was hurting by the end of the night. Plus having DH take off my dress took like 20 minutes ha!

Also I used a family friend for a photographer and I didn't get a lot of candid style shots that I see other knotties with. 

I really want to see your dress! It sounds really gorgeous!  

youngin12

I would have hired a real photographer. I used a friend that is a great photographer but she never shot a wedding before, let alone a fairly large one. She freaked out. She took over 900 pictures and they were good but not great. She completely missed some very important times  too(like my dad seeing me for the first time).

ChickenLittle2010

emu0013:

ChickenLittle2010:

brookelynpaisley:

I would have hired a real wedding photographer instead of using our friend who does model shoots. There are a lot of moments missing. It's taken me a long time to be even just "okay" with our pics.

We had a friend that did our wedding pics. He's a real wedding photog and gave us a package as a gift. But he also attended as a guest and he missed a LOT of shots I wish I had now. I feel your pain. Its really hard to look at others photos and realize that bits of the day are missed.  

 Sorry to hear that.....:(

Its okay, he got some really lovely shots of DH and I. But we don't have many of the candids that I would have liked.

 

annelise k

Definitely a different photographer. To be fair, he did get some great pics, but missed many of the important ones. I am still upset by it; I still haven't been able to find one that's right for a portrait.  I cried for a week after he showed me the proofs.  Fortunately, the rest of the day was beautiful and DH was really supportive throughout the waterworks.

KMorin101010

Looking back I would change alot

1) the pictures are horrible there is not one picture of my husband and I together and there are none of our first kiss...who misses that.

2) I would not have used the caterer we used the food was really really bad

and 3) truthfully if we could go back we would have just gone on a cruise and gotten married on the cruise at least then we would have gone on a vacation instead of staying here

I know it sounds as though i hated my wedding day but the only good thing was the fact I got married and the weather was great. im sort of disappointed with the whole day. though i guess theres a good side to having no pictures....no way to remember lol

tlalli7106

It's crappy to say but I would do the entire ceremony/reception over. To make a long story short we were to get married on a beach in Key West, FL. We were cruising with 50 of our closest family and friends and Key West was our first port stop. Two weeks before the cruise left, the cruise company (will go unnamed) decided to move Key West off of our itinerary and add Cozumel, Mexico.

So we had to decide to either get married on the ship (most of our family in Florida that weren't cruising with us were just planning on driving down to Key West) that departed from Port Canaveral, FL or get married in Cozumel. We didn't think it was fair to tell all of the non cruising guests they had to scramble at the last minute to find flights to Mexico so we decided to have our ceremony on the ship before it left.

Needless to say we had our ceremony in a small banquet room with hideous decor, the food was okay but not what we had planned. The music was awful, I didn't get the flowers I wanted and our photographer was awful... basically all resources were VERY limited given what the ship had to work with. The best part about it was we didn't have to pay a single penny for anything, including the open bar for the reception after the ceremony because of the inconvenience!

Now that DH and I look back on it we were thankful just to be there with our family and friends, that's what really made the day special for us...we could have been anywhere. But there are times where I look back and think what it could have been like. Maybe we will have our beach desitination wedding on our 10th anniversary or something where we can renew our vows.

missycrissy3

I would have pick a different DJ! At the reception we had no clue what sequence things were suppose to happen! Other than that everything was wonderful!

branmuffin2112

Man hearing you ladies talk about not loving your wedding pictures truly makes me sad ...not only is photography my profession but it is my passion. It is an honor to capture the beauty and purity of ones wedding day-I am so sorry to hear that things didn't work out the way you had hoped with your wedding photographer.

I know it's a big expense but in the end I believe it's worth it...and from the sound of it many of you might agree.

tblauvelt

tlalli7106:

It's crappy to say but I would do the entire ceremony/reception over. To make a long story short we were to get married on a beach in Key West, FL. We were cruising with 50 of our closest family and friends and Key West was our first port stop. Two weeks before the cruise left, the cruise company (will go unnamed) decided to move Key West off of our itinerary and add Cozumel, Mexico.

So we had to decide to either get married on the ship (most of our family in Florida that weren't cruising with us were just planning on driving down to Key West) that departed from Port Canaveral, FL or get married in Cozumel. We didn't think it was fair to tell all of the non cruising guests they had to scramble at the last minute to find flights to Mexico so we decided to have our ceremony on the ship before it left.

Needless to say we had our ceremony in a small banquet room with hideous decor, the food was okay but not what we had planned. The music was awful, I didn't get the flowers I wanted and our photographer was awful... basically all resources were VERY limited given what the ship had to work with. The best part about it was we didn't have to pay a single penny for anything, including the open bar for the reception after the ceremony because of the inconvenience!

Now that DH and I look back on it we were thankful just to be there with our family and friends, that's what really made the day special for us...we could have been anywhere. But there are times where I look back and think what it could have been like. Maybe we will have our beach desitination wedding on our 10th anniversary or something where we can renew our vows.

That sucks but I feel ya. I would have done it all over again too.

StephK

I have had six years to think about this and there are three things I would have done differently -

1) I would have taken pics from my hair trial with me to the day of hair.  She curled it the wrong way and didn't tack down the front as well as she should have, so it always bothers me when I look at pics.

2) I would have given my bakery a more clear idea about the decoration on the cake.  When I described it to her, I thought it would have actual blue ribbon around the layers, but she did everything in icing and copied the picture I gave her 100% and I didn't want her to do that.

3) I should have made a more detailed list of must have pictures AND assigned someone to make sure we got them all.  The timing of the day got a little screwed up due to weather and a dress malfunction, which led to a little chaos.  The photographer we used was great (an assistant of my BIL, who is a professional photographer), but we missed multiple shots of me with certain people, like MIL.  I wanted more close-up shots of the two of us.  I should have been more clear.

He did an AMAZING job with the ceremony and reception, but there are other parts that are just a bit lacking.  Thank goodness BIL took lots of pics too. 

mrsjones06

1. Different photographer...mine was just ok, but missed a lot of important moments & only got one semi-decent shot of DH & I together.

2. Different DJ, mine was ok, but kind of a dud...that also could've been b/c our wedding was at 2pm though, so people weren't drinking as much as an evening wedding & therefore not dancing.

3. Hired a videographer. A family member was supposed to record the ceremony, but he was in an area he wasn't supposed to be in & ended up having to leave the camera pointed at a candle the whole time. At least I can hear it. Also would've been great to get people giving us well wishes at the reception.

4. Would've scheduled my hair appt earlier so I wouldn't be so rushed & could've spent more time just relaxing with the bridesmaids & enjoying the day.

5. Would've gone on a honeymoon afterwards. We put it off, saying we'd go for our 1 year anniversary, but have yet to go 4 years later. I also think it loses some of the excitement when done later.

All that said, I still had a fabulous wedding day & have wonderful memories!

LauraElizabeth85

I would have chosen a different photographer. I went with a company that the venue suggested and our photo's were "meh" (we got married at a golf course/vineyard & the photographer wasn't even going to take photo's of us in the vineyard until I suggested it at the end ). I found a couple of photographers after the fact (in the area) that would have been perfect! I'm really pissed at myself for not doing more research because our wedding photo's are all we have left to remember our special day

+ I would have changed the weather. The only time it rained that day was during our 20 minute ceremony (sun was out beforehand & afterwards) so we had to get married inside when I REALLY wanted an outdoor ceremony.

msmarsh

branmuffin2112:

Man hearing you ladies talk about not loving your wedding pictures truly makes me sad ...not only is photography my profession but it is my passion. It is an honor to capture the beauty and purity of ones wedding day-I am so sorry to hear that things didn't work out the way you had hoped with your wedding photographer.

I know it's a big expense but in the end I believe it's worth it...and from the sound of it many of you might agree.

We made sure to splurge in this area because I adore photography... and we were STILL disappointed! Don't get me wrong, we have some wonderful pictures. But we only had 10 minutes to take pics as a couple. It was completely rushed and stressful and so not what we had specifically asked for.

I don't want to sounds like a whiny brat by any means, but I would much rather have more pictures of my husband and me than the large, ridiculous group shots of our families, which nobody wanted to buy.

peanut107

branmuffin2112:

We made sure to splurge in this area because I adore photography... and we were STILL disappointed! Don't get me wrong, we have some wonderful pictures. But we only had 10 minutes to take pics as a couple. It was completely rushed and stressful and so not what we had specifically asked for.

I don't want to sounds like a whiny brat by any means, but I would much rather have more pictures of my husband and me than the large, ridiculous group shots of our families, which nobody wanted to buy.

I agree. I didn't have nearly enough photos of DH and I alone. Also, we only have one where we are actually looking at the camera. I love our photos besides that fact. Our photographer captured amazing moments -- I just wish we had more time for photos of just us rather than wasting time taking millions of group photos.  

branmuffin2112

msmarsh:

branmuffin2112:

Man hearing you ladies talk about not loving your wedding pictures truly makes me sad ...not only is photography my profession but it is my passion. It is an honor to capture the beauty and purity of ones wedding day-I am so sorry to hear that things didn't work out the way you had hoped with your wedding photographer.

I know it's a big expense but in the end I believe it's worth it...and from the sound of it many of you might agree.

We made sure to splurge in this area because I adore photography... and we were STILL disappointed! Don't get me wrong, we have some wonderful pictures. But we only had 10 minutes to take pics as a couple. It was completely rushed and stressful and so not what we had specifically asked for.

I don't want to sounds like a whiny brat by any means, but I would much rather have more pictures of my husband and me than the large, ridiculous group shots of our families, which nobody wanted to buy.

Right and everyone is so different on what they want. I just shot a 2 day wedding event and the bride and groom wanted TONS of pics of their guests b/c many of them traveled very far away. I could hardly convince them to just do a few pics of just them lol

But when it's your day and you're paying that person to do a job for you, you get to call the shots. You should be able to look at your wedding pictures and not only remember that day, but feel it also. 

I'm nervous before every single wedding b/c there is a lot of pressure. I don't want to screw up, I was a bride too and I know how important those photos are...they are what your grandchildren will look at one day

NeonEyeliner77

brookelynpaisley:

I would have hired a real wedding photographer instead of using our friend who does model shoots. There are a lot of moments missing. It's taken me a long time to be even just "okay" with our pics.

This. The photographer the chapel used was horrible and didn't get pictures of our family/friends and gave a us a bunch of posed pictures where we were blinking or talking instead of taking them over again. I hate looking through our photos.

Mirface

I would have planned it for two weeks later than it ended up being!

We got married in the first weekend of February and ended up with a blizzard.  

I don't really regret it though, beyond some drama with my cousin (bridesmaid) who told me I was being selfish for having the wedding anyway and not just postponing it.  

There were only two months of the year that there was enough time for DH to not have work swamping him, February and August.  I don't do well with a lot of heat when I can wear the most comfortable clothes...

If we hadn't of gotten married when we did, DH's father would not have have been there (he passed away in July.)

 

pinkangelmoon

Hired a different videographer. We're lucky we even got our video but parts of it were crappy and they went MIA afterwards. Good thing we splurged on a good photographer!

AggieKim

We made sure to spend money on photography and I loved my photographer.

I would have had someone different as my day of coordinator. As it turns out, a girl I'd know and had been friends with in high school worked there and she did the wedding. Though she did nothing wrong, I just feel I might have been a little more upfront about tiny things I would have done different and she wouldn't have said something kinda silly while we were cutting the cake.

And our DJ was blah. But we were already pissed about that before the day. The company switched DJs on us. Apparently, it was in the contract they could if the original wasn't available anymore, but since we booked the one we wanted so far out, it never crossed our minds that it could happen. Dumb us.

cozylittlecave

Absolutely nothing.

(except knowing where the silver engraved cake cutter my mother bought me was... it got misplaced during the reception & we had to hunt down some knives from the kitchen! We eventually found it after the reception.) 

Ella85

I would have insisted on more family formal pictures and more pictures with us and our guests.