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"You can't have a September baby!"

As I was talking to my SIL this weekend we mentioned our TTC problems and I mentioned that September due dates will be coming up soon.

So the subject is what you said to me. She said there are already too many September birthdays that we just don't need one more. I know she was joking, but it still kind of stung.

I politely said back to her, "Sorry babe. We've been waiting too long for this and if it happens I guess we're just going to have to deal with another September birthday, won't we?"

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Re: "You can't have a September baby!"

  • Wow Indifferent some people just do not realize how what they say comes off to others. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that ((((hugs))))
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  • Ugh I hope she was kidding, but either way she shouldn't have said that to you. How self-centered and rude can you be? Very insensitive and not really something she should be joking about to you.

    January, when our baby was due, is literally the only month that our families don't already have a birthday, so I thought it was perfect. Now I'll take any month, day, whatever, just give me a baby!

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  • want me to beat her? I think a September baby sounds perfect
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  • 'cuz that's a priority...not.

    Yeesh.  Grow a brain, SIL.


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  • That comment would hurt me too.  Some people really don't think before they say stuff.  It is so annoying.  September babies are awesome!  My husband is one example of a great september baby.  He is an amazing person. 
  • wtf?! Indifferent I'm sorry darling. That's really fvcking ridiculous to say. Joking or not.
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  • The first time I got pregnant, I tried to plan when the birthday would be. Now Id be happy with any month at all. The sooner the better. Im sure she was joking, but still insensitive.
  • I hope you have a September baby just to spite her now Angel
  • Wow! Your SIL makes it seem like TTC is easy and convenient. I'll take a baby whenever I can get it. I liked your comeback :)
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  • Oh boy, yeah, THAT's a good rationale. Seriously, some people are just beyond words
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  • Wow, it's a good thing it was you and not me, because my words would have been far less polite. I really hope I've never been as thoughtless as the people who I've encountered since my loss!
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  • Seriously Cashew's SIL?????  I hope you do just to prove her wrong.
  • Really, you can't have a September baby cuz there are too many birthdays in Sept?  C'mon, really?  I think it makes it better that way! Everybody will remember his/her birthday.  I really can't think of it as something negative.  Geez!

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  • Talk about rude! Ugh, I'm sorry you had to deal with that.
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    I hope you have a September baby just to spite her now Angel


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  • That's not something to joke about. Why don't people think before they speak?
  • Really?!?!?!?!? September is a great month for a baby! I'm hoping to be able to try for one with you!
  • She has to understand that any due date is a good one.... what a silly thing to say to you!  She should be wishing you luck and hoping you get the earliest due date possible.  Shame on her!

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  • Wow - I'm with you, a baby is a miracle whenever it comes, that is so wrong to tell someone they shouldn't have a baby in a particular month, even if you are "just joking."

    FWIW, a co-worker actually laughed and told me I was "stupid" to have had a September due date during my first pregnancy.  She told me I should have timed things better.  Ummm, yea, if she had any idea how many months I TTC'd before I got pregnant, maybe she'd have kept her nasty mouth shut.   

    If you DO get a September baby, your child will be the oldest in his/her class - a definite plus when (s)he gets into school!! 

    September due dates ROCK!!!!  Big Smile

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  • I think that by saying this to you she has greatly increased you chances of having a September baby :)
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  • How rude of her. I hope you have a september baby.


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  • I am sorry your SIL said that. A baby is a miracle. I think a September baby is a good month. I have never worried about how many birthdays we already have in  my family any given month. Your SIL needs to learn to think before she speaks. 


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  • I really hope you get your September baby!
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  • Ugh!!  Why do people say such things?!  Really.  I mean I used to want to have a baby at a certain time of year myself and not others for various reasons.  At this point I don't give one hoot when I have a baby and I know you  - are the same.  Any time, any place - just a sticky, healthy baby - asap. 
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  • Geeez how insensitive!!
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  • Sorry Cashew but I'm pulling out the.......CVNT. screw her.
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  • Ugh!! People make me so mad!!  Everyone should come with some sort of filter!!  B/c people just aren't smart!!! I'm sorry she said that to you, but I'm glad you stood up to her!! 
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  • Fingers crossed that you have that September baby now!!  What an annoying thing to say, kidding or not.  Maybe you should have said, "You know, you're right!  I'm glad that you pointed that out so we can plan to skip that month of trying."
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