Are you kidding me? & intro
I was waiting to introduce myself until DH & I were actually allowed to TTC, but I realized that I need to talk to someone who knows what it feels like.
Will start with a sucky story and then introductions.
I'm an RN and I had to work at the hospital this Thanksgiving. I was already upset that I wouldn't be able to spend time with my family on the first holiday after my grandpa & DH's grandma dying & our m/c. I get to work, and my co-worker is drinking ginger tea, and I say to myself, She's probably freaking pregnant. Turns out, I am right she told me that she is after having a big argument with her boyfriend over texts. She proceeds to inform me NUMEROUS times that she just isn't ready to be a mommy. I decide to tell her about my m/c, because I think that this will make her shut the hell up. NOPE! Continues to repeatedly tell me she isn't ready and even that she considered an abortion, until her BF told her that he would kick her out of his house if she considered it. Add onto that last night, I got into a huge fight with DH because after 3 weeks, I haven't "picked up and moved on" and today I start my day off by reading this post on Facebook:
"Hello facebook!!!! Before the pounds start coming and clothes don't fit anymore ....I have a special announcement to make! BABY ON BOARD!!!! We're having a baby:) I am a little over 6 weeks and due July 22nd. We're very excited. He or she is going to be the biggest bundle of joy!!!!!"
All that being said time for intro:
Found out we were pregnant 10-6 and even though we weren't actively trying (we did the not trying NOT to get pregnant thing) we were both VERY excited. All was going well until my 1st appointment at 7&1/2 weeks (11-1) when the Dr. said either we weren't as far along as we had thought or it wasn't a "normal pregnancy." That Sunday, I was in the most pain I had ever experienced and went in for another US on Monday, which Dr. confirmed I would have a m/c. He told me that it may take up to 3 weeks, so I decided after calling off for 2 days to go to work, Went to work next day and M/Ced while I was there. This all happened the week that I was planning my sister's baby shower (she is now 34 weeks). HCG levels were at 20 on 11-18, so Dr. said it was complete with no more blood draws needed. And I've been instructed to wait 2 cycles before TTC. So here's hoping AF comes soon. Thanks for reading all this, I know it's REALLY long...
BFP 10-6 EDD 6-17-10 Natural M/C 11-9
BFP #2 1-11-11 EDD 9-15-11 changed to 9-23011 after first US
Re: Are you kidding me? & intro
I am so sorry for the co-irker!! If she continues, i'd just tell her the flat out truth. Listen b!tch. I'd give anything to be pregnant right now, so hearing about how you are not ready is killing me. You need to stop.
Welcome to the board. I am sorry for your loss.
Aurora Rose born sleeping at 35w on 4-21-10
BFP#2 {Almond} - 2.1.11 EDD 10.12.11 C/P 2.11.11
BFP1: 8/20/10, spotting 8/23 at 5 wks, MTX shots 9/17 and 9/28
BFP2: 2/12/11 Grow baby grow!
BFP#1 5.27.10 DS became an angel at 21 weeks on 9.22.10
BFP#2 4.16.11 Healthy baby girl born 12.14.11
BFP#3 9.3.12 A healthy, bouncing baby SISTER on the way! EDD 5.12.13
I'm so sorry for your loss. Ditto Cashew on slapping the co-irker into shape real fast. Since you were honest about you loss just remind her how hurtful it is for you to hear her have so much doubt when you'd give anything to be pregnant now.
Welcome to the board. There ladies on here who aren't TTC yet so I wouldn't worry about feeling like you're not able to post here yet. While I hope your stay here is short and sweet, in the meantime you'll find lots of information and support here.
M/C #1 2001 (6w1d); M/C #2: 10/02/10 (4w4d); M/C #3 05/26/11 (4w3d) Clomid BFP #4 7/18/11 @ 9DPO Please baby stick! Beta #1 (11DPO)=51; Beta #2 (13DPO)=170; Beta #3 (19DPO)=2659!! EDD: 03/31/12
BFP 1: 3/19/10 Loss: 7/9/10
BFP 2: 12/28/10
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Thanks everyone! Means a lot to have someone to talk to.
Co-worker and facebook post were the same person. Which is why I was so mad to see her post how "excited" she is.
BFP 10-6 EDD 6-17-10 Natural M/C 11-9
BFP #2 1-11-11 EDD 9-15-11 changed to 9-23011 after first US
October 2011 - DS (7)
July 2014 - Stillborn DD (24 weeks)
August 2015 - DD (3)
April 2018 - 5 week loss
Welcome to the board... so sorry for your loss and all you have been going through as of late. The women on this board are amazing and will become family to you soon.
*hugs* I'm sorry about the co-irker. Want me to punch her?
I'm sorry you have to join the board, but you're sure in the right place.
First, Welcome to TTCAL.
second
@ your co-worker continuing to tell you about that after you informed her of your loss. people really do get absent minded and self obsessed.
third, I'm so, so sorry your DH feels after 3 weeks you should be fine. Its not that simply, it's not that easy and I wish people could understand that.
Remembering Evelyn and raising Bailey
Evelyn Born at 24wks 6days on May 22, 2010 due to pre-e Passed away May 25, 2010
BFP# 2 Delivered 6wks early due to preeclampsia
I'm so sorry for your loss. Your co-irker sounds like a real peach and I would take Cashew's advice for setting her straight pronto. I really hope that your stay here on the board is short and sweet!
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IVF#1 BFN IVF#2 BFP, loss at 19 weeks FET#1 BFN IVF#3 BFP, m/c FET#2 BFN
Missing our twins Zachary and Madison, lost at 19 weeks on 11/13/09, edd 4/9/10
BFP 7/17/10, m/c 7/25/10, edd 3/25/11
Ectopic, lost left tube 4/20/11, edd 12/6/11
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Dx: MFI- 3% morph
IUIs: Gonal-F + Ovidrel + b2b IUI= BFNs
IVF with ICSI= BFP! EDD 11/25/11
3/18- Beta #1 452! 3/20- Beta #2 1,026!! 3/27- First u/s- TWINS!
Our twin boys arrived at 36w5d due to IUGR and a growth discordance
Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.
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5/17/12...1st Betas- 176, P4 3.6
5/22/12...2nd Betas- 207, P4 6.1 (MC confirmed)