Wow! Instant and total devestation...

butterflynola

We lost our little girl at 22 weeks every who knew me knew that I was pregnant, there's no hiding it at that point anyways and why would we we were so excited, that was like 10 weeks ago since then many people made a point to send a card or write something about how sorry they were on our fb walls well here I am having a perfectly good day came home from yoga feeling very positive and optimistic in no way dwelling on my sadness that is until someone who I haven't talkted to in a few months writes on my wall on facebook: "Hey have you had your baby yet?"  Instantly I felt completely deflated and found myself standing in the shower bawling my eyes out The question has me perplexed I'm confused myself about it and still in shock many days and now that question just keeps ringing in my head, did you?  I know she didn't mean it, I mean she could have just scrolled down my wall and saw all of the sad messages but that's ok it's certainly not her fault but Man does that suck and feel like I got punched in the gut.  Sigh.  I'm sure this is what many of us have to look forward to though so I feel for all of you for when you have these moments too.

kamelendez

I'm sorry for your loss. Its the worst feeling to start to feel better than get slammed in the face with the huge loss that you feel. I know people don't know better sometimes...but sometimes I feel like saying nothing is better then hurting you. I hope you feel better.

haziedaze

The ups and downs are so tough! I bet she'll feel so bad when she realizes, but don't feel like you have to respond if you don't want to. Maybe one of your mutual friends will clue her in? ((HUGS))

dana1318a

I'm so sorry    I wasn't as far along as you, but everyone who really mattered to me knew I was pregnant.  This weekend I did a lot of de-friending on fb.  I just felt like, if they weren't a big enough part of my life to have known that I was pregnant, then we didn't need to be "friends" on fb.  I'm not mad at any of them.  It's mostly people that I haven't talked to since high school or college, that honestly I'll probably never talk to again.  I dropped about 100 people, and it felt really theraputic.  I guess I feel like this loss has made me focus on the people who really matter.  And I just don't have the energy to congratulate people I barely know anymore when they're KU, or look through their pictures of their kids wondering why not me.