If you could hit rewind...

lilpreggo

If you could hit rewind and go back in time to do it all again, what would you do differently or plan to do differently next time:- in labour and delivery- in the first 3 months with your LO

Sarahhhlynn

First, id get a new doctors office. Mine wins the award for the worse by far. Second, i wouldn't listen to the doctor who just jumps to conclusions and gave me no choice about my delivery. Third, id never get a c-section. After almost bleeding to death because the doctors were ill prepared and didnt look at my chart which clearly stated i was at high risk for hemorrhaging. Im glad LO is here but there is A LOT id go back and change.

Jess8589

I would have tried harder to last without the epidural. I would have also recorded the birth - i was so focused on me and what i was doing the whole thing is kind of a blur.

MommaEm

Recorded the birth like I did with DS and not let my bfs mom in the room.

kcarnovale

Absolutely nothing!! I had a wonderful doctor's office who I still keep in touch with. My labor and delivery was AWESOME!! Even though I wanted no drugs, I had an epi and had my baby 30 minutes later with 2 pushes.

I was blessed with a great baby, who cries sometimes, but never cries during diaper changes, baths or clothes changes. Very lucky!! My life is very good and we are very lucky.

If I could hit rewind, I would put things on pause for a little to thank God for everything we have. I wouldn't change anything for the world, even if things were different.

Ms.MKBT

The only thing I would change is have someone in the room besides DH to take pictures of the birth- he was supposed to, but got overwhelmed and didn't get a lot of pics.  Everything else was great!

xpedite

I'd have hired a photographer to do newborn photos.

Under.the.Rose

I would have mentally prepared myself for a possible c-section.... For some reason it didn't even occur to me that my pelvic fractures from a car accident 4 yrs ago would heal in such a way that I wouldn't be able to deliver naturally. I'm still dealing with the disappointment and anger... and no one I talk to understands why I'm upset that I didn't get to deliver naturally and that I'm upset that I never get to try again. Everyone thinks I'm crazy. 

aneener

I was so sick of being pregnant and my due date was in a few days so I started walking ALOT and doing squats and stuff on a balance ball. Well like the doctor said if you do that too soon you will jump start your labor but might make it a lot longer. I didnt think 2-3 days would be a huge difference but I had a 60 hour labor. I think it might have been because of all the stuff I did. I would have planned better having family coming to visit while I was in the hospital, it was the only normal time I have had since I had my daughter so its so hard for people who havent met her to be able to come and see her, since our schedules never connect. I wouldnt have gotten an Epidural because I had gone throught 56 hours of labor already and only was on the Epi for one hour, so it was totally pointless, and they took me off when i began pushing. I just would have planned so much better!

jim7496

Under.the.Rose:

I would have mentally prepared myself for a possible c-section.... For some reason it didn't even occur to me that my pelvic fractures from a car accident 4 yrs ago would heal in such a way that I wouldn't be able to deliver naturally. I'm still dealing with the disappointment and anger... and no one I talk to understands why I'm upset that I didn't get to deliver naturally and that I'm upset that I never get to try again. Everyone thinks I'm crazy. 

I had an unexpected C-section as well. I completely understand your disappointment & anger at not being able to deliver naturally. If think if I could change anything it would be to not have been so sick for the last trimester and during l&d. There's nothing I could've done to change it though so I'm working on trying to get past my anger and depression regarding it. Poor DS was in NICU as a result of my illness & f!'d up l&d. If I could've spared him any of what he had to go through I would've.

Under.the.Rose

jim7496:

Under.the.Rose:

I would have mentally prepared myself for a possible c-section.... For some reason it didn't even occur to me that my pelvic fractures from a car accident 4 yrs ago would heal in such a way that I wouldn't be able to deliver naturally. I'm still dealing with the disappointment and anger... and no one I talk to understands why I'm upset that I didn't get to deliver naturally and that I'm upset that I never get to try again. Everyone thinks I'm crazy. 

I had an unexpected C-section as well. I completely understand your disappointment & anger at not being able to deliver naturally. If think if I could change anything it would be to not have been so sick for the last trimester and during l&d. There's nothing I could've done to change it though so I'm working on trying to get past my anger and depression regarding it. Poor DS was in NICU as a result of my illness & f!'d up l&d. If I could've spared him any of what he had to go through I would've.

*hugs* Thanks  

torii

My L&D was wonderful but now I kind of wish I would have used a mirror or had someone video her birth. It's so amazing for me to think back on, but memories fade and I'm sad that one day it won't be as vivid anymore. As far as since she's been born; I would have asked for help a LOT earlier. I was a determined, stubborn, blubbering mess the first week because I wanted to do everything myself. Dh finally called my mom and she's helped me realize I AM a good mother and it's okay to have help. Oh, I would have totally prepared freezer meals for those nights I want a homecooked meal without having to think about it!

HisSunshine1220

Under.the.Rose:

I would have mentally prepared myself for a possible c-section.... For some reason it didn't even occur to me that my pelvic fractures from a car accident 4 yrs ago would heal in such a way that I wouldn't be able to deliver naturally. I'm still dealing with the disappointment and anger... and no one I talk to understands why I'm upset that I didn't get to deliver naturally and that I'm upset that I never get to try again. Everyone thinks I'm crazy. 

I also had an unplanned c-section and was not mentally prepared in anyway. I also feel anger and disappointment which nobody understands.

If i could go back and change something... I would have bought less prefolds and more pocket diapers. lol honestly, my pregnancy was wonderful, the hospital staff was amazing, and these first 2 months have been great. I don't think there is anything that could have been done differently in my delivery.

Oh... one more thing. I would make DH's family stay as far away as possible.

kathleen02

I went with a MW/birth center for my care, however I ended up in the hospital because DS wasn't descending properly and I had a long labor with back pain. I am actually really happy with my birth experience despite me not going natural as planned. So next time around I hope to find care with midwives or a naturally minded OB, but may opt to go the hospital route instead and skip the birth center. For me personally, I think I ended up with the best of both worlds

MSC03

I think I'd switch hospitals. Sure, we did fine in the hospital we were in but I've heard the other one is better for mom-baby care after the birth. They also allow birth recording, which I think I'd like this go-round. I wish I remembered my first words to Lilly when she came out. I mean, I'm pretty sure it was, "OH MY GOD! HI!" but I'm not quite sure.

wife1014

i would not have delayed the cord clamping.  that was the demise of us being successful breastfeeders...i believe the nicu stay was caused by the delaying of the cord clamping.  the nicu stay fcuked up the bf.