I lurk on other boards...

peeps61308

I am not sure if this is ok to admit, but I lurk on many other boards. Today so many of the regulars on the IF board have gotten BFP's!! I could seriously sit at my desk and cry I a so excited for them. Day after day I am blown away by what they go through and how strong they are. I am not sure if it is ok to lurk on that board and admit to it, but I am seriously so excited for them!!

achase123

I totally lurk on other boards too!  Mostly the nest on TIP and Relationships.  I only post here and on Starting Over.  Oh, and sometimes the 12-24 month boards.  I used to have a hard time with some of their posts but I'm doing better with it recently because everyone has their own issues.  I don't want to be a martyr of a SP who thinks that only single moms with Super Douche exes have it rough.  Not true!

So exciting about the BFPs!  That's fantastic!

peeps61308

I'm not sure why I feel terrible admitting that. I don't want them to feel like circus freaks that I am watching...I am just captivated by their stories...as I am sure some people are about ours...lol

bradyg927

I lurk too...sometimes on the Adoption board, and it makes me so happy when couples are matched with a baby.  I can't imagine what they've been through to adopt their babies but I'm sure it's painful.  I'm sure if I started lurking on the IF board I would just be a big ball of tears every day, hehe.

CrimsonPen

Confession:  I'm not a SP, but I lurk here often. 

 I've had some really bad relationships (one abusive) and sometimes post under an AE when I see posters who find themselves in situations I was in.

 I also get really annoyed with a lot of the "main" boards and find that you guys are just much more down to earth and real here.  

 Please don't hate me for lurking here - I'm afraid to post as I've seen that non-SP sometimes don't get the best reception.  However, as the OP said, I am constantly blown away by what you go through and your strength.  I have cried, laughed, and rejoiced at so many of your posts.

 *retreats back to lurk-dom*

SUNKISSD3

bradyg927:

I lurk too...sometimes on the Adoption board, and it makes me so happy when couples are matched with a baby.  I can't imagine what they've been through to adopt their babies but I'm sure it's painful.  I'm sure if I started lurking on the IF board I would just be a big ball of tears every day, hehe.

This is where i tend to lurk the most as well. Although i try not to as much especially when at work. Back when i was pregnant i remember a couple who was finally matched and i remember crying a good portion of the day bc i was so happy for them and everyone at work thought i was going thru something pregnancy related

fauxshelley

I used to lurk on a ton of boards, but since work has beeen so busy, I now only have time to lurk where I post, BF, PA35, SP, and SO. 

::waves to CP::

I wonder who else lurks here.... Why don't you come on out and say hi? 

peeps61308

CrimsonPen:

Confession:  I'm not a SP, but I lurk here often. 

 I've had some really bad relationships (one abusive) and sometimes post under an AE when I see posters who find themselves in situations I was in.

 I also get really annoyed with a lot of the "main" boards and find that you guys are just much more down to earth and real here.  

 Please don't hate me for lurking here - I'm afraid to post as I've seen that non-SP sometimes don't get the best reception.  However, as the OP said, I am constantly blown away by what you go through and your strength.  I have cried, laughed, and rejoiced at so many of your posts.

 *retreats back to lurk-dom*

I think I speak for just about everyone when I say we don't mind lurkers on the board. If anyone can relate to any of the things that are posted here and use them to help themselves, that is great!

Generally, we are just not a fan of the people whose DH's are out of town a few days a month and know what we are going through as single parents.

Mommy2B_Hart

fauxshelley:

I used to lurk on a ton of boards, but since work has beeen so busy, I now only have time to lurk where I post, BF, PA35, SP, and SO. 

::waves to CP::

I wonder who else lurks here.... Why don't you come on out and say hi? 

Hi!!!  I lurk here.  For lots of reasons, I admire all of you, and honestly, I lurk because at one point or another, my marriage was in a rotten place, and I wondered if I could do it if I had to.  Some days, I still wonder that, and after seeing you ladies, I'm pretty sure I could.   But you all also remind that my problems aren't that big of a deal, and seeing some of the cuh-razy you deal with puts my life into perspective.

dimake

I used to lurk on TIP back before I ever had TIP, and Family Matters.  In fact, when it was just "The Nest" I used to lurk on the Relationships board there, because it had the best drama.  I'm a lurker for the most part on my local board too.  And now I post occasionally on Starting Over.

I can't read many intro posts though on this board and Starting Over.  I always feel so sad for the poster.

NastyAnnie

fauxshelley:

I used to lurk on a ton of boards, but since work has beeen so busy, I now only have time to lurk where I post, BF, PA35, SP, and SO. 

::waves to CP::

I wonder who else lurks here.... Why don't you come on out and say hi? 

Guess I'm caught.

I've been lurking here for a couple of months. I also lurk on Blended Families (and occasionally post there, as I grew up in one). My father was a single parent for a while, as was my stepmom (my mother died).

I enjoy coming here and reading your stories (AChase, your blog...Gawd. It's beautiful. And inspiring. And just plain word-magic.) and keeping up with you girls. I think a lot of you are really great people who've been handed some really sh!tty situations, and it's inspiring to see you conquer them. Also, on the boards I'm a reg on, there are TONS of posters. It's nice to be able to see the same 6-10 people posting every day, having a dialogue, being intimate with one another over the internet. I like it.

 

...And apparently I'm just plain creepy. Sorry girls.

achase123

NastyAnnie:

fauxshelley:

I used to lurk on a ton of boards, but since work has beeen so busy, I now only have time to lurk where I post, BF, PA35, SP, and SO. 

::waves to CP::

I wonder who else lurks here.... Why don't you come on out and say hi? 

Guess I'm caught.

I've been lurking here for a couple of months. I also lurk on Blended Families (and occasionally post there, as I grew up in one). My father was a single parent for a while, as was my stepmom (my mother died).

I enjoy coming here and reading your stories (AChase, your blog...Gawd. It's beautiful. And inspiring. And just plain word-magic.) and keeping up with you girls. I think a lot of you are really great people who've been handed some really sh!tty situations, and it's inspiring to see you conquer them. Also, on the boards I'm a reg on, there are TONS of posters. It's nice to be able to see the same 6-10 people posting every day, having a dialogue, being intimate with one another over the internet. I like it.

 

...And apparently I'm just plain creepy. Sorry girls.

::waves hi to lurkers::

I wish more people would come out of lurkdom and post, personally.  I like to hear that people can draw inspiration from us, even if it's just because they are having a tough time in their marriage.

What I don't like is when someone does a quick drive-by, says they are leaving their effing, no good jerk of a husband, we are sympathetic, give advice accordingly, on to have them then screech off the board a few days later after things are rosey again.  Then we spot them on their home board with a "DH AW" post.  That does tend to get under my skin.  But I sincerely wouldn't mind if people who were not SPs gave advice.  I actually like a lot of different perspectives.

Oh, and thank you for the compliments on the blog.  I am really thinking about and researching possibly writing a book!

NikkiJ19

I lurk here. The BM of my SKs is a single mom so I wanted to get a better idea of her feelings and what she went through. It has helped me be more understanding!