I need a real big hug!

Ris1127

I'm typing with one finger on my phone so please forgive the typos. Anyway, baby blues, everyone gets them for at least a few days right? Well mine hit today. I spent all day trying to hide the tears from my mom (she was going home today and I didn't want her to worry about me.) well after she left the day got harder. Finally right before diner I lost it. I was upset because I took DD outside for a few mins and she ran into the street! I had to chase her down the street (5 days post c-s) she NEVER goes into the road! I was upset that she could have been hit and I wasn't fast enough. (my road doesn't get many cars but still) I was upset that I made diner while DH watched TV to try to get rid of is headache. Then I had to get it ready for DD. He did fee her and clean her up. But diner still needs to be put away. Then there's DD #1 bedtime. OMG that was awful! I normally rock her to sleep and decided if I put pillows around me I could. I was comfortable but she just wouldn't go to sleep. So I called in DH to try because I had to nurse the baby. Well she screamed so he put her in her crib, she then became hysterical, choking and all. I went to go get her and he says no she's got to stop this. I looked at him and said no she's never screamed like this and I won't let her. So we both went in there. I gave her water and rocked her. She was asleep in 2 mins. I came out and was getting ready to nurse the baby when I bagan to cry. I picked everything up and took DD to our room. As I was leaving he said so what you have to leave now? I was barely able to no as I was bawling. I've been crying for like 20 mins and i know he can hear me because our room is off the living room. I've also cried several times tonight and he's never once asked what's wrong. Is it wrong of me to want a hug from him? I know it's really hormonal based but I would be upset over these post delivery or not. I'm not sure why he's so distant. Does he want me to do this alone? Gee I hope this doesn't last long.

CeltiCutie

Aww honey. That is an awful day. I am so sorry! I wish I could hug you!!!! Your DH needs a swift kick in the pants!

thejennigirl

What time would you like me there to kick your H in the butt?  Seriously.

I get the needing a hug thing.  When I'm upset, that's all I want.

(((HUGS)))

Men.  Some days....   grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

 

papagena

((huge hugs))

I'm so sorry you're having a rough time and DH is being a dolt.  Speaking from experience, I think DH's go through their own post pardum thing - with the main symptoms being denial and stupidity (I say that only somewhat jokingly).  Let him know what you need - sometimes they are just oblivious and need it typed out in 20 pt font, etc.  I hope your baby blues go away soon - and make your DH give you that hug and a bit more support. 

Sassy_Cassie

Sometimes husbands are really freaking oblivious and you need to tell them exactly how you feel.  Tell him (gently, not accusatory) how you feel... that you're overwhelmed and that you need his support. 

((Hugs))  I hope you get some well deserved rest tonight and have a better day tomorrow. 

blissfully_caffeinated

I'm sorry! I think we all had days like that in the beginning. Just keep an eye on it and know that it's okay to ask for help. I know when ds was still little (and even now) I forget how hard it is on Dh too. It's a huge life change and it's emotional for them as well. That doesn't excuse his behavior. He's being such an ashole.

MELuckyInLove

(((Hugs))) Sorry you had a rough day. There's nothing wrong with letting out some tears if it makes you feel better. And don't be so hard on yourself, you're being a great mama. Let DH know about your feelings and that you need some support from him - I'm sure if he knows how to help, then he will.

Adding a newborn to the family is a big adjustment for all. Don't sweat the small stuff (who cares if the dishes don't get done right now). Just hang in there, it will get better. And try to get some much needed rest so you can heal.

 

nsees

((((hugs))))

Adjusting to the major amount of extra work that one little baby creates is a huge family adjustment.  I hope that your H gets that sooner rather than later!  Speak up though and let him know he needs to step up more!  Be careful not to overdo it after your surgery, as to not set yourself backward!

MissyOlivePants

{{{HUGS}}}  If I wasn't sick I'd come over today & help you out.

I agree with the others - let your DH know - spell it out completely for him.  They seriously are clueless unless you let them know with words.