A little "slap" into reality...

njmommaterp

Just as I thought I was feeling mentally better....

Wednesdsay was suppose to be our first u/s. I wanted to do it before Thanksgiving so I could relax once I saw that everything was OK. Little did I know!

This past weekend, I went to a friend's DD bday -we haven't seen eachother since September--and as I walk in, my heart sank and I had a "bittersweet" smile on my face. She was standing there with a little belly and she told me they just found out it is a boy.

I am very happy for them and wish them all the best. But all I could think about was that I was suppose to have a little secret of my own.

Then back in October, I joked that I couldn't have a beer or two at the Jets game in November. Well, yesterday I made sure I enjoyed a few!!

Sorry, I keep rambling different thoughts...but that is where my mind is today!

I am really thinking about you all, especially as we head into this holiday season, I wish we could give eachother one big group hug!!! Take care!!

 

amanda2223

Hugs to  you!! I think that being around pregnant people is just so hard-- you're heartbroken because you want to be like them, but you want to be happy for them as well. I must confess, I was in this situation for my cousin's baby shower, and as happy as I really was for her, it broke my heart to be there and feel so empty. Luckily, people were nice about it when I left the room during games and chit-chat, and turned a blind eye when I hit the bar with the guy guests.

I see alot of these posts-- how do we deal with our own sadness that we don't have our own "little secret" anymore? I don't  have an answer, but I certainly feel the sentiment. At least we have this venue to come to when we're upset.

Take care!

Gaberinos

I am so sorry for your loss and that you are having to go through this with us. It is especially tough to find out around the holidays. I found out a little over two weeks ago, but had kept our pregnancy pretty secret as well. I had big plans to get copies of the u/s and frame it to announce it to the family as I would be around 13 weeks now. Unfortunately, our situation turned against our favor. This is a great place to be and there are a lot of great people that are very willing to give support and help. Hang in there and if there is anything that you need we are all here for you!

samanthahollman

I'm sorry. ::hugs::

dana1318a

I'm so sorry for you loss, and I understand how you feel seeing pregnant women.  It's hard, but we're here for eachother.  And hopefully we'll all be in that place when we're ready again. ((hugs))