Several long stories behind it but basically my doctor has no empathy and is really lacking in communication skills.
She was great up until I started having issues at 36 weeks. I was having cramping/contracting. They told me in L & D that if I would be 39 weeks they would have taken the baby then. Told me it was pre-term labor and that they were worried about his lung development. Go home and rest, eat every hour and drink around the clock. When I asked about a note for work, the doctor told me to go to work (?????) because they don't put people on bedrest for "pregnancy discomfort". I thought that that made no sense at all but just thought maybe I was overreacting to the pain.
I ended up pulling myself out of work shortly after that (I have sick days that I can use). The pain/cramping/contracting was just too much. I would spend half my day in tears (even after stopping work) or in the bathroom. I was taking tylenol around the clock. I didn't want to risk the baby's lungs or my health. Not to mention, I wasn't going to be an effective teacher to first graders in that much pain.
Due to complications with my DD, I had an amnio this week to check LOs lungs. If ok, I was going to have a c-section (medically necessary) this week. After the amnio I ended up in L & D for 6 hours due to a burning pain in my stomach and a headache that I had had for 4 days. The amnio showed that he wasn't ready yet. They sent me home with darvocet for pain (amnio pain was gone. this was for headache/cramping/contracting). I thought maybe my doctor was FINALLY understanding that this has been true pain and not just "discomfort". Initially I refused the darvocet because I usually puke with narcotics. The doctor strongly encouraged it thinking it would help me get some needed relief.
Had another appt this week. I had to ask dr for a note for work because I am using so many sick days in a row. She gets all weird again. I don't understand why she even gives a sh*t about it. It is not for worker's comp but for days I have already earned. I don't know why she cares when I start my leave. I can't teach full of darvocet. She proceeds to say that I was only to take the darvocet for amnio pain, not around the clock. Um, WTF??? She just told me to take the med for pain. DH was there and heard the same thing I did. Why write a prescription if you don't want me to take it? Also, why write it for 6 pills a day for 5 days? She ended up writing me a note for work but after I got the lecture about how most women work up until their due date. NO sh*t. Does she not think I would rather have this time with the baby?! I feel like she thinks I am some white trash pain pansy that is just trying to get out of work. I am just trying to do what is best for my baby, me and my students.
After all this, I am really freaked out about my c-section. I am scared the spinal isn't going to take and she is going to cut on me anyway dismissing any pain that I may have as just "discomfort". As of now, the c-section is scheduled for Monday. Do you think there is any chance I can switch doctors/practices or will no one touch me this late in the pregnancy? Also, will that mess up insurance coverage if I switch?
Sorry so long-you get a cookie if you have read this far. Please no flames. I am really worried and upset about this entire situation. I'm sure that I have probably left out something but this is all I can think of right now without crying. And for what it is worth, DH is upset too and he doesn't get worked up about stuff like I do. Also, my mom (a nurse) thinks the dr is crazy since she is always contradicting herself.