just a small vent

krista613

so i might sound quite bratty.... but i dont mean to. one of my close girlfriends out here offered to throw me a shower. and i helped her plan the details (guest list and if any one has allergies etc.)

it is next week, the 20th. no one has gotten an invitation yet. she just sent them out this week. they should get them today. 8 days in advance. i already had her push the shower back one week because she hadnt done anything for it. i understand shes busy but one of my SAHM friends offered to help her out with stuff and she was like no ive got it.

i already had a shower back home with my family and friends from high school/college and everyone was very generous so i really dont need more "loot". and thats not the issue.

but im the type of person who stresses over EVERYTHING, and last minute stuff really stresses me out. and if i was a guest to this shower id be stressing out like "omg i have only a week to get krista a gift?, effff, i have work and this and that, and omg i have other plans next weekend dont i?"

ETA: she lives far from the rest of us and forgot to put direction in the invitations.. awesome.

 

pawcall

I know shower drama like it's my job.  So I totally understand how you feel.  I think it's really crappy of people to offer a shower when they have no interest in following through with the appropriate planning.

That said - the invites have already gone out, so it's probably best to just leave it as-is.  Is she requesting RSVP's?  Or is it "regrets only"?

A week is plenty of time to buy a gift, but I certainly understand your concern that people probably have made other plans already.

krista613

i plan to leave it as is at this point. had she not sent out invites already id be like just make it for mid december and send them out now!

im just a planner by nature. i dont do last minute.

i have no idea what the rsvp situation even is. i know that my friends that have asked me know when the shower is and all that already. i just dont know who said they are coming. who knows with shoddy planning like this rsvp'ing probably doesnt even matter.

i think if i wasnt already stressed out having my DH's idiot grandmother here id be like "whatever babyshower" and just roll with it. but since i have the old russian woman who takes dumps on toilet seats like a ***, i am already stressed and when i get stressed i get control freaky.

jbettles

My sister planned my shower for tomorrow, and she REALLY dropped the ball on sending the invites out.  Very close to your situation - people got them maybe 10 days in advance.  On the one hand, I stressed about it big time, that maybe some people wouldn't come for late notice, wouldn't get the invite in time, etc.  On the other hand, I thought... well she did her best (she really has done a wonderful job on everything except that), and some people probably wouldn't have been able to come, regardless.  So far, only a handful have RSVP'd (it was a small guest list, of less than 20), but I finally decided to just go, enjoy myself, and if it's just 8 of us sitting around, that's more food and cake for us to enjoy    

DaPalmz

my MIL is planning my shower for the 27th. as far as i kno she still hasnt sent out the invites. we are supposed to go over there tomorrow to take some maternity pics. hopefully she will send them out after she shows them to me (since shes that kind of person). she insisted that she (and only she) throw the d@mn party so he better not b!tch that she didnt get any help!