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SOO frustrated!! WWYD?

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Ok, here's the situation.  We have had a woman coming to our house to nanny the girls since I finished maternity leave in mid-March.  She has been watching my two DDs four days a week, from 8:30 until 4:30.  She also brings her two year old son (who is just a few months younger than my older DD).  While she doesn't always do things that way I would do them, things have been working out fine.

A few times during the past year, she has asked us if she could take the kids to the beach (we live about 20 minutes from Lake Michigan), to the park, or to her house (even asking if she could watch them half the time from her house--which is 20 minutes away).  My DH and I both agreed that we wanted the girls to be at our house--and we didn't want someone else driving them.  My DH kept saying to me, "we hired someone to come to our house because that is where we wanted them to be for DD2s first year.  Not a home daycare, not a daycare--OUR house."  We told her that (not what my DH said--just that we prefer the girls at home)--and she was upset at first, but seemed to gradually understand.

That brings us to this week, she AGAIN asked me if she could bring the girls to her house one of the days this week because the weather was going to be so nice and "there are so many more things to do" at her house (outdoor toys, ride on toys, etc.).  I appreciate her wanting to do fun things with the kids, but things haven't changed with how we feel about them going somewhere that we don't know--so I told her no (after talking with my DH about it). 

So, now she is ticked off--and being very stand-offish the past few mornings to my DH.  I called her on the phone and she told me that she is frustrated and feels that being able to take the girls to her house would be like a "raise" and that she felt she deserved it.  She told me that there was nothing I could say to make her feel better about it (that she feels like we are treating her like a 16 year old and that we don't trust her) but that she would eventually get over it.

My DDs will be going into daycare in January--so it's just a few more weeks of her watching them anyways.  My questions to you all are:

1.  Am I being totally overprotective with not letting them go places with her?

2. Should I find someone else for the next few weeks to watch the girls?

3. WHAT SHOULD I DO?!? ugh.

Sorry for the novel.  I just feel stressed out. Sad

 

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Re: SOO frustrated!! WWYD?

  • Cynthia7461Cynthia7461 member

    It would be a red flag for me. Why does she want them at her house so badly.  I would find someone else if you can.  Sounds creepy.

     

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  • seanandcallieseanandcallie member

    Not creepy at all in my book. As someone who has watched children for years, I don't even take jobs where the parents have a no leaving the house rule. It's stifling to both the sitter and the children. Of course, in the beginning it's understandable. You were getting to know her. I would be frustrated if I were here. 

    I'm not saying that you should do it. That is your prerogative. But I understand her point and it's not like she's asking to take them to run her own errands. She wants to take them places where they would have fun. 

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  • NiniJ55NiniJ55 member
    It does not neccesarily sound creepy to me -- but you did hire her to come to you house and that is what you should do.  She only has a few more weeks anyway. 
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  • aeg51107aeg51107

    I go a little stir crazy in my own house with just one kid, I could not imagine being stuck with nowhere to go with 3 kids!

    I agree, she's not asking to run her errands or do things to benefit her, just for everyone to get some fresh air and get out of the house!

     

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  • sevillababysevillababy

    I don't think you are being over protective at all.  I agree with your DH, you hired her to take care of your kids at YOUR house.  I have a nanny as well and she brings her son whenever he doesn't have school or during summer vacation but under no circumstances would we permit her to take our LO to her house. It's not that I don't trust her, but to be honest, I don't know her husband or whether there are other people at her house and I just wouldn't feel comfortable with it.  She takes LO to the park which is only a short walk down the street but that's as far as she takes her. 

    I'd stick with your current nanny for a the next few weeks and then move on.  

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