Raise your hand if you are terrified

cburitz

I am so scared of something going wrong... It seems like every day there is another person back to the TTGP board because of a miscarriage.

I know I shouldn't worry and I have no reason to suspect something is wrong... but I cannot stop the irrational fear that I will lose the baby. Every time I go to the bathroom, I am checking to see if I'm bleeding.

Does anyone else feel like this? I hope that some of the fear will go away after the 1st appointment.

BoogieMonster629

I feel like this every single day.  I'm hoping my first appt goes well and calms my fears.

snickergirl

I have the same fear.  I just try to remember what my OB told me - there really isn't much that you can do now that will cause you to miscarry.  Just be happy, enjoy your pregnancy and take care of yourself.  It's so hard to just relax and enjoy it though when you know all of the stories of loss

figsandolives

cburitz:

I am so scared of something going wrong... It seems like every day there is another person back to the TTGP board because of a miscarriage.

I know I shouldn't worry and I have no reason to suspect something is wrong... but I cannot stop the irrational fear that I will lose the baby. Every time I go to the bathroom, I am checking to see if I'm bleeding.

Does anyone else feel like this? I hope that some of the fear will go away after the 1st appointment.

 

yes me!!!! it seems losses are so frequent!

jdm7

I have this fear as well. With my first pregnancy, I started bleeding in the middle of the 7th week. We found out that I had a hematoma (a bruise) inside my uterus. That eventually wore the lining the sac down and my water broke at 15wks. If I can get through until Christmas without seeing any blood or any troubles, it'll put my mind at ease. Until then, it's just sitting here and trying to keep my sanity in check.

RyC2

cburitz:

I am so scared of something going wrong... It seems like every day there is another person back to the TTGP board because of a miscarriage.

I know I shouldn't worry and I have no reason to suspect something is wrong... but I cannot stop the irrational fear that I will lose the baby. Every time I go to the bathroom, I am checking to see if I'm bleeding.

Does anyone else feel like this? I hope that some of the fear will go away after the 1st appointment.

 

Every second of everyday.  You described my feelings exactly.  This is WAY more stressful than I ever anticipated. 

FordFalcor

I'm definitely worried about this too. My first appointment can't get here soon enough.

Hang in there.

morgs8384

I have that fear more when I am on the bump. And obviously it's just because in every day life I am not surrounded by  millions of pregnant women and reading all of their "thoughts". I have started to pick and choose what posts I open because I have found that certain types of posts make me worry..avoiding them has helped me enjoy this pregnancy.

kers0068

(Hand Raised)  I had a MC in May and it has totally changed my experience with my new pregnancy! I am completely scared of my first US in two weeks where we will get to see the heartbeat. I had a little brown spotting yesterday and it freaked me out. I called my doctor and she said it is nothing to worry about. Easier said than done!!!

Mrs.Leah.Maria

snickergirl:

I have the same fear.  I just try to remember what my OB told me - there really isn't much that you can do now that will cause you to miscarry.  Just be happy, enjoy your pregnancy and take care of yourself.  It's so hard to just relax and enjoy it though when you know all of the stories of loss

This. Unfortunately it isn't an irrational fear, as many as 1out of 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage. That said, there isn't much you can do. I daily say, "Today I am pregnant and I love my baby."

zsharky

Yes, I'm terrified of something going wrong! Since I had a miscarriage a few months ago, I'm freaking out about hormone levels and things like that. I check for bleeding every time I go to the bathroom. I wish there was some magic test that could tell me that everything is great and I wouldn't have to worry.

mbernard1014

it's normal. my first pg i checked every time i went to the bathroom thinking i was gonna see blood. even this time w/ my 2nd i'm the same way. just try to relax and whatever is gonna happen you can't control so just try to enjoy it all.

BarooGirl

Ok, I hate that you all (we all) are feeling this way. But, it gives me a little comfort to know I am not alone.

I cant wait for the 1st apt to get here, maybe that will calm my fears and make it feel more real (to see it in there?).

IDK, I just want everything to be OK--for all of us

OK, damnit- now I am going to cry. I hate this mood swings

damabo80

Yes. I no longer find statistics comforting.

And sadly, the fear doesn't really go away. Every week there's something to worry about.

For me, I'm looking at PG like throwing pasta at the wall. If I throw enuogh pasta at the wall, hopefully one piece will stick.

iheartcutepuppies

RyC2:

cburitz:

I am so scared of something going wrong... It seems like every day there is another person back to the TTGP board because of a miscarriage.

I know I shouldn't worry and I have no reason to suspect something is wrong... but I cannot stop the irrational fear that I will lose the baby. Every time I go to the bathroom, I am checking to see if I'm bleeding.

Does anyone else feel like this? I hope that some of the fear will go away after the 1st appointment.

 

Every second of everyday.  You described my feelings exactly.  This is WAY more stressful than I ever anticipated. 

This is how I feel, also. 

YaraC

I think it is very normal. It is so hard not to be able to see or feel what is happening there. With my first, the first OB appt didn't really quell my fears. It did for a while but it wasn't until I started feeling movements that I relaxed some. Getting those kicks provides a lot of reassurance. The worry never stops until the baby is in your arms though.

PiperS

I worry all the time. I think I worry because it was just so easy for me. We weren't even ttc and we did and when I read the sad stories about so many women that struggle it makes me feel so lucky that it happened so easily, but so aware that I am not out of the woods at the same time. My u/s on the 23 can't get here soon enough!

ECHC829

figsandolives:

cburitz:

I am so scared of something going wrong... It seems like every day there is another person back to the TTGP board because of a miscarriage.

I know I shouldn't worry and I have no reason to suspect something is wrong... but I cannot stop the irrational fear that I will lose the baby. Every time I go to the bathroom, I am checking to see if I'm bleeding.

Does anyone else feel like this? I hope that some of the fear will go away after the 1st appointment.

 

yes me!!!! it seems losses are so frequent!

also take into consideration a lot of ladies who post on thebump are here bc they are struggling with their fertility and inititally come to the boards as a support system.  I feel the ratio is skewed bc it seems as if 50% of the ladies on here have had past trouble conceiving and in reality its a much lower percentage of m/cs.   You can't compare yourself to others, just be safe and happy that you made it this far...

Bella1184

I know exactly what you all are talking about. It is constantly in the back of my head. I am always checking to see if my boobs still hurt, thinking ok yes I still do feel a little queasy today and most of all I find myself always checking after going to the bathroom on the TP. I am glad to know I am not alone though

ltdgrl01

I am raising both hands! I am scared to death and called my OB nurse today to have her walk back from the ledge. I have been limiting how often I go to this site. There are a lot of scary things on here and there seem to be more negative than positive. Most people don't post positive things and I think that is part of it. So I chose which posts I am going to read. The internet is a scary place. I didn't know half the stuff about m/c's 3 weeks ago that I do now! I have not be cramping badly or bleeding at all so I am taking that as a good sign! You are definitely not alone!

ShyVi826

I am scared too.  My heart breaks every time someone leaves us.  I try to stay positive and think that I have nothing to base my fear on, as I have had no bleeding or cramping.  It is definitely hard to keep off your mind though, especially as it seems we have had quite a few friends leave us these last couple days.  I asked DH if we could tell some really close friends last night, because I wanted to feel happy about it again!  It is hard to keep off your mind when you are hiding your pregnancy from everyone because of the fear of loss.  My sister had a missed m/c a few months ago so I know I won't be able to really relax until we get to see/hear the heartbeat, although I do believe in my heart that our baby is healthy and will come home with us.

gmc222

::raises hand::

It seems like every day there is someone else I find out is pregnant and due around my EDD - like my best friend, husband's cousin, husband's friend, coworker, etc, and I'm scared that they will go on to have healthy babies and I will be missing out. I have no reason to think that (I'm a bit naseous as I type this!), but I can't help it. My first u/s next week can't come soon enough!

philipandcara

I had a miscarriage in April and another in June.  Just got my BFP...I am a little reserved about my excitement until I see that all is well on the u/s but besides that, I think that all you can really do is enjoy each day-one day at a time.  There is no reason for anyone to be robbed of the joy of being pregnant...my plan is to wake up every day and submit to hope versus fear...and pray a lot!  

 

ShyVi826

philipandcara:

I had a miscarriage in April and another in June.  Just got my BFP...I am a little reserved about my excitement until I see that all is well on the u/s but besides that, I think that all you can really do is enjoy each day-one day at a time.  There is no reason for anyone to be robbed of the joy of being pregnant...my plan is to wake up every day and submit to hope versus fear...and pray a lot!  

 

Beautifully stated!

mrsbaker1128

You are definitely not alone in this. I could have written this post word for word. DH tells me to calm down and not worry until there's something to worry about, but I just can't help it.