Pregnancy is bad....

kck329

...for my sex life. Anyone else?

My poor DH-my sex drive is basically at zero, someone tell me it gets better!

TheRealNJhousewife

It's sooo bad. I feel awful, but I am always exausted by the time DH gets home at night. Hopefully it changes soon! 

kelly321

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croberts22

Right now I'm just mad that my body thinks it can have both the 2nd tri enhanced sex drive and m/s.  I keep telling it that its not allowed to have both, but it won't listen.  And I'm going crazy. 

NJMom050911

Mine came back about a week ago but my DH won't go for it. He's got some weird thing going on in his head that since I'm pregnant "I'm virginal and innocent and it's taboo to do anything with me" He said he's trying to work on getting past this but just can't. Haven't had any since we got BFP.

tlxh7

I think we've done the deed maybe 4 times since our BFP.  Though, DH is somewhat happy with that, because he assumed that we couldn't when I was pregnant.

waterfly

kathygrzywnowicz:

since I'm pregnant "I'm virginal and innocent and it's taboo to do anything with me"

Um, what?  I'd think that the fact that you are pregnant would put paid to the "virginal" thing...

Unless maybe he's thinking more in terms of the baby's "innocence" or something, but from everything I've heard, not only does the baby not mind, they actually enjoy it when mommy feels good...

tokenhoser

Our regular sex life is about the same as it was. A little worse off, but from work travel and DH staying at work until 11 pm, not from being pregnant.

My dream sex life is through the roof! These dreams are wild.

NJMom050911

waterfly:

kathygrzywnowicz:

since I'm pregnant "I'm virginal and innocent and it's taboo to do anything with me"

Um, what?  I'd think that the fact that you are pregnant would put paid to the "virginal" thing...

Unless maybe he's thinking more in terms of the baby's "innocence" or something, but from everything I've heard, not only does the baby not mind, they actually enjoy it when mommy feels good...

Yes I asked him if he forgot how we got here in the first place. He said he can't really explain it but it just freaks him out

tokenhoser

kathygrzywnowicz:

waterfly:

kathygrzywnowicz:

since I'm pregnant "I'm virginal and innocent and it's taboo to do anything with me"

Um, what?  I'd think that the fact that you are pregnant would put paid to the "virginal" thing...

Unless maybe he's thinking more in terms of the baby's "innocence" or something, but from everything I've heard, not only does the baby not mind, they actually enjoy it when mommy feels good...

Yes I asked him if he forgot how we got here in the first place. He said he can't really explain it but it just freaks him out

Time to bust out some lingerie and a vibrator and put on a show.

I mean... 9 months is long enough, but then it's at least 6 more weeks, and then you're going to be exhausted and hormonal and have a vagina that went through a war. I'd get him over his virgin issues stat.

mrbear83

"They" say it gets better with 2nd Tri, but I'm with you on this one... aches, pains, sore boobs, and exhaustion leave me at 0, too....

NJMom050911

tokenhoser:

kathygrzywnowicz:

waterfly:

kathygrzywnowicz:

since I'm pregnant "I'm virginal and innocent and it's taboo to do anything with me"

Um, what?  I'd think that the fact that you are pregnant would put paid to the "virginal" thing...

Unless maybe he's thinking more in terms of the baby's "innocence" or something, but from everything I've heard, not only does the baby not mind, they actually enjoy it when mommy feels good...

Yes I asked him if he forgot how we got here in the first place. He said he can't really explain it but it just freaks him out

Time to bust out some lingerie and a vibrator and put on a show.

I mean... 9 months is long enough, but then it's at least 6 more weeks, and then you're going to be exhausted and hormonal and have a vagina that went through a war. I'd get him over his virgin issues stat.

LOL I might try that! So far everytime I tried anything he has an excuse, like I'm tired or I have a headache or I have to take a shower...grrr lol

alliejoe

croberts22:

Right now I'm just mad that my body thinks it can have both the 2nd tri enhanced sex drive and m/s.  I keep telling it that its not allowed to have both, but it won't listen.  And I'm going crazy. 

 My sex drive came back full fource this past week.... right after our anniversary and when DH has been out of town (I feel so bad- I didn't even want to think about sex during our anniversary).  But the m/s is still here some days- hopefully my body will get the message and move on!

AmyO.

Oh man, when we first got the BFP we were getting it on like rabbits.  Something about actually becoming pregnant was a trigger.    Then, I started getting tired.  So it has cut back to about once a week.  Poor DH.  I know he wouldn't mind it a little more especially with how often it was happening.  Hopefully the 2nd tri is better.  I hear that constantly being tired is mostly 1st tri.  I hope!

Kristi85

Hahaha, I feel the same way!  Hang in there, though, I've heard it gets better!

meghancmm84Wed21413

kelly321:

same here - the one time (!!) we had sex since the BFP I was not able to enjoy it at all because I was worried about spotting and/or getting a UTI (I have chronic UTIs). Luckily DH has been very understanding and was surprised I suggested it even that once. We've been making use of "alternatives" to keep him from getting too frustrated :-)

Ditto. I was feeling great all of yesterday and thought maybe we'd have it a second time since becoming pregnant, but DH was at school until 10PM. That's about an hour past the time that I fall asleep. (Thanks tiredness). Needless to say, that idea crapped out.

I thought maybe today we might be able to, but no such luck. M/s is back and I am at home sick again. Ugg. Maybe someday soon. But at least DH is being a trooper about it! Poor guy..

meghancmm84Wed21413

kelly321:

same here - the one time (!!) we had sex since the BFP I was not able to enjoy it at all because I was worried about spotting and/or getting a UTI (I have chronic UTIs). Luckily DH has been very understanding and was surprised I suggested it even that once. We've been making use of "alternatives" to keep him from getting too frustrated :-)

Ditto. Yesterday I felt great ALL day and it was the first day without Zofran (Yay! Party!) I thought maybe we'd be able to have it a second time (how sad) since becoming pregnant, but DH was at school until 10PM. That's about an hour past the time that I fall asleep. (Thanks tiredness). Needless to say, that idea crapped out.

I thought maybe today we might be able to, but no such luck. M/s is back and I am at home sick again. Ugg. Maybe someday soon. But at least DH is being a trooper about it! Poor guy..

Heather & Nayt

DH's sex drive is through the roof right now. I think he has woke me up at 6 am for the last week and a half for morning loving, and I feel guilty turning him down so i go with it and about half way though I start to get into it. My sex drive seems to come and go through out the day. I had a killer sex drive last pregnancy, this time i am just tired all the time! 

Eros

It's definitely not just you.  I'm in the same boat.  I keep hoping it's going to come back one day soon.  So far, no luck. 

kck329

Thanks ladies! At least I know I'm normal. I can't wait til the fabled 2nd tri energy boost kicks in!

nix71909

DH has been very patient... im finally getting the drive back but still on antibiotics with infection so it totally sucks dh and i wanted to get it on today and the dr called and said i have another infection and need to take a course of antibiotics before we have sex... its getting verrrrrryy frustraiting... dh would be happy with the once a week one of you said at this point.. its been almost two months and were both going a little crazy him more than me... we have only done it 1-2 times since we found out sad i dont even remember.