STTN question - only feeding one overnight

jennie13

My twins have slept completely through the night once (7-5:30.)   Most nights, J is always the one who wakes up first, and we wake up H to feed them together.    I'm curious to see if H will STTN consistently if I let her sleep.   The one time I did that, they seemed to be off during the day - H wanted to eat more often than J, probably to make up for the feeding she didn't get overnight.     Did you find it hard to keep the babies in sync during the day if you only fed one overnight? 

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how old are they? (make a ticker, woman! that makes a difference.

my boys STTN on the same night together for the first time- and kept up with it... so might not be much help from me

do you try to soothe J instead of waking to feed? try patting belly, giving a paci, etc... don't feed so fast- that is how we got ours to stretch out their times between bottles, from about 5w on we did this- and they STTN at 8 weeks... but from 10:30-7am... they still had a 10pm bottle - maybe do that instead of putting them down for the night at 7?   My boys didn't go to bed at 7:30 until they were 6mo old.... up until then we always gave them a 10pm bottle.

 

LoveEeyore

How old are they?

I always used to wake the other, otherwise I'd be back an hour later.  Around 14 months they STTN once and since then I stopped waking the other.  Now DS wakes around 2 to nurse, DD at 4.  Then he is up for the day around 545 and she will sleep until 6:30/7.  If DD wakes a little later I will wake DS with a prayer that he'sll slep a little later...

I have always nursed on demand so until recently as I've dropped feedings, I never really noticed.  I really want to kick the habit, but the thought of denying 2 angry babies the boob at the same time is not a happy one!

trish3905

I have one baby who consistently has STTN since 6 weeks and the other baby has yet to STTN.  I don't have any trouble keeping the babies in sync for the day.  I usually have one feeding that marks the start of the day, sometime between 6 and 8:30.  When one wakes up, I feed both babies together.  The rest of the day, I feed on demand - feeding both if one indicates hunger.

My baby who STTN takes a longer time nursing at each feeding, so I am guessing that she is getting the same amount of calories as her sister, but in fewer feedings.  

 

OrangeSmoke

Ditto what people said...

H has always slept longer than A... around 8 weeks or so, we started letting him go longer.  When A was still taking 2 bottles overnight, H was only doing one and when A went to one bottle, H was STTN (8-5). 

If they are under 8 weeks old, I would continue to wake them, if not, it might be worth seeing how long H will sleep.

And yes, I also wake both of them up in the morning together so we can be on the same schedule for the day.

jamie217

We've been having horrible nights the past week or so and last night I brought the swaddlemes and sleep positioners back out (we have not used either in almost 2 months and hadn't needed too) and they slept much better, I don't know if it's a result of that or them being exhausted from being up so much the past few nights.  A friend of mine with twins said when sleep training she read to set the alarm a little before they'd wake out of hunger so they'd never fully wake and start crying and then would go down easier and she'd do them one after the other to keep them in synch.

It worked great with M, but K would not wake to eat, luckily she only woke about an hour later because I've been letting them get up on their own to eat there is sometimes a 2-3 hour difference and the one who got up later doesn't eat very well in the morning.  So until we ween them of night bottles all together, I'm going to keep trying my best to feed them as close together as possible,

Haven1

A lot depends on size and age.  DS2 is quite a bit bigger, and I sensed around 3m1w that he was ready to not wake when DS1 did.  It took a few days of getting up an hour later, but now DS2 sttn consistantly.  We still get up once with DS1 almost every night, but he's so little that I know he's not ready to skip the feeding. 

jennie13

thanks - the girls are 3 months now.   And they are within a pound of each other, and it's the bigger one always waking up first.     Both eat like vultures when I feed them in the middle of the night - lately it's been around 2 or 3, so they've gone 7+ hours without eating -  I'm pretty sure it's hunger.    They both spit out pacifiers, and I'm tempted to stop miracle-blanketing them so they can find their thumbs, but I don't want to mess up a good thing and have them start getting up more than once between 7-5:30/6!