Asking godparent idea needed

OctGirl80

We've decided who we want for our little girl's godmother (still working on the godfather, though). She's DH's niece who is 21 and she is already over the moon that we're having a girl and that the dd is her birthday. She's a really great girl and I know she will be ecstatic when we ask her, but I was trying to think of a cute way to ask her. Any ideas?

EmjayTheHunted

Are these real godparents/baptismal sponsors, or just the "I think it would be nice to ask you to be a godparent" type.

I'm Catholic and we have requirements that go beyond "being over the moon."

Pythia1022

EmjayTheHunted:

Are these real godparents/baptismal sponsors, or just the "I think it would be nice to ask you to be a godparent" type.

I'm Catholic and we have requirements that go beyond "being over the moon."

You need a nap, Emjay. She chose the godmother. She doesn't owe you a resume of her requirements. Cool your hormones.

 

For my baby's Godparents, I asked them each in person if they would do me that honor, and I'm putting together godmother/godfather gift packages to give to them at the Baptism.

Maybe give them a gift, then personalize it? Like a bottle of wine, with a custom label that says "Will you be __'s Godmother?"

Pythia1022

EmjayTheHunted:

Are these real godparents/baptismal sponsors, or just the "I think it would be nice to ask you to be a godparent" type.

I'm Catholic and we have requirements that go beyond "being over the moon."

You need a nap, Emjay. She chose the godmother. She doesn't owe you a resume of her requirements. Cool your hormones.

 

For my baby's Godparents, I asked them each in person if they would do me that honor, and I'm putting together godmother/godfather gift packages to give to them at the Baptism.

Maybe give them a gift, then personalize it? Like a bottle of wine, with a custom label that says "Will you be __'s Godmother?"

Angel0423

I have a girlfriend that I plan to ask to be the godmother, not in the catholic way (not exactly sure what that even means)  but in the way that if something were to happen to me and my husband I know I could count on her to be involved in the things that my parents are too old to participate in (the child would likely be raised by mine or his parents) and be an overall good role model.  She's 25, a teacher, starting on her masters, etc. 

I'm thinking about getting her a necklace that says "Cameron's Godmother" with a blue stone- of course this will all change if its a girl   I was just going to have her open it at christmas, so it will be a total surprise!  I know she will be thrilled!!  They have some cute stuff at things remembered   My other idea was an ornament for her tree, but I couldn't find anything I liked.

EmjayTheHunted

I totally do need a nap.  I'm tired.  But the question was legit.  If it's a casual title she's bestowing, then the recommendation I might have made would have been more casual. 

If it's a formal Catholic baptism sponsor, then maybe something a little nicer.  

 

EmjayTheHunted

Angel0423:

I have a girlfriend that I plan to ask to be the godmother, not in the catholic way (not exactly sure what that even means).

https://www.catholicdoors.com/courses/godpar.htm

The qualifications and disqualifies are listed.  Scroll down just a bit.  That was why I was asking.  It's a whole song and dance for Catholics.  We can't just pick anyone.  

But some people look for fault in anything I post... even if it was a real reply.  I wasn't giving the OP a hard time, just asking.  

Angel0423

EmjayTheHunted:

Angel0423:

I have a girlfriend that I plan to ask to be the godmother, not in the catholic way (not exactly sure what that even means).

https://www.catholicdoors.com/courses/godpar.htm

The qualifications and disqualifies are listed.  Scroll down just a bit.  That was why I was asking.  It's a whole song and dance for Catholics.  We can't just pick anyone.  

But some people look for fault in anything I post... even if it was a real reply.  I wasn't giving the OP a hard time, just asking.  

 

wasn't being snarky, legitimately didn't know what it meant. I"m not catholic.

OctGirl80

Emjay, I totally get you. We are catholic and they will be official baptismal sponsors. And yes, she has met all requirements. It's also one of the reasons there's no godfather picked yet.

 

It actually a touchy topic with me. DH is godfather to his best friend's little girl and neither the parent or the godmother have completed their sacraments. They made an agreement with the priest that they would so that he would do the baptism. She's now 7. They don't attend church (any, not just catholic) and she doesn't go to catechism nor will she make her first communion. I just don't understand why they even bothered.

 

ETA: Not saying everyone should go to church every week, etc, etc. Just saying, why lie to a priest about something you know you're not going to do or really even care about.

bexstreeper

OctGirl80:

It actually a touchy topic with me. DH is godfather to his best friend's little girl and neither the parent or the godmother have completed their sacraments. They made an agreement with the priest that they would so that he would do the baptism. She's now 7. They don't attend church (any, not just catholic) and she doesn't go to catechism nor will she make her first communion. I just don't understand why they even bothered.

 

ETA: Not saying everyone should go to church every week, etc, etc. Just saying, why lie to a priest about something you know you're not going to do or really even care about.

I totally agree with you!!! I am really thinking long and hard on this.  I want people who are active in our faith (Catholic) and attend mass. Not just for the day of the ceremony, but have a commitment to God. The selected party should live the faith and teach the faith to our LO in our absence.  I don't want to pick someone @ random because they have been my BFF since elementary school.

Angel0423

Bexstreeper:

OctGirl80:

It actually a touchy topic with me. DH is godfather to his best friend's little girl and neither the parent or the godmother have completed their sacraments. They made an agreement with the priest that they would so that he would do the baptism. She's now 7. They don't attend church (any, not just catholic) and she doesn't go to catechism nor will she make her first communion. I just don't understand why they even bothered.

 

ETA: Not saying everyone should go to church every week, etc, etc. Just saying, why lie to a priest about something you know you're not going to do or really even care about.

I totally agree with you!!! I am really thinking long and hard on this.  I want people who are active in our faith (Catholic) and attend mass. Not just for the day of the ceremony, but have a commitment to God. The selected party should live the faith and teach the faith to our LO in our absence.  I don't want to pick someone @ random because they have been my BFF since elementary school.

Totally agree with that statement!  My bff had a baby in highschool and I was the "godmother" meant absolutely nothing! lol!  We were 17!!  The kid is now 8 and I've still never even babysat!  I think  you wanna be sure to ask someone who is equally excited about the baby as you are, and who would realistically be interested in stepping up if need be.  Morals are very important if its someone who you hope to play an active role in your childs life.  And for the OP I don't think 21 is too young btw.  At 21 I was taking care of my niece on weekends in my dormroom!!  It all depends on the person!