Getting panicky and nervous....words of comfort?

janabelle3

Happy Monday! First I just want to thank you women for advice you have given me the past several months. This board has been so helpful to me throughout my pregnancy I am due in roughly two months with my twin girls and I am very excited to meet them that's for sure!   But , and I wonder if any of you have gone through this or have some words of comfort. I am getting really nervous and sort of panicky about the whole thing. Just knowning that instantly I will have two babies to look after at one time, I'm SUPER scared of the c-section itself (I've had one surgery before and I had an anxiety attack before that to say the least), and basically just how my world is going to change 360 degrees within one day. In many great ways too   I just can't believe that I am already seven months pregnant and how fast time has flown. It's a bit surreal you know? Thanks for letting me vent.

Leigh71

That is how I was feeling around week 30...so close to where you are.  My sister and DH unpacked a "double!!" pack and play/bassinet in our master bedroom.  and.... panic set in.  I should have been more grateful...but I just kept staring at it in a bit of shock. 

I was so nervous... I put everything off... the nursery...getting diapers beforehand..... stuff like that.  In fact, the girls are 3 months old now... and I'm just now decorating their nursery walls.  (That's because I've been too busy since they've been home.)

I told my DH after they were born.... "I can't imagine having only 1.  If feels just right having our 2 girls."  And I meant it.  As soon as I met them, I felt complete.  They completed our family.  So, I think all of your feelings are very normal. 

monkski

I felt the same way as you, but rest assured that the anxiety is the worse part. I was so worried about how much my life would change. I remember thinking....this is the last time I'll get to watch a movie in a few years, the last time I'll be able to sleep in, the last time "insert whatever else here". Well, needless to say, I have more time than ever to watch movies while breastfeeding them. Maybe not in one sitting, but still.  I couldn't believe how much they slept at first and how much free time I actually had. And it turns out that I don't even care about any of those things anymore. Just being a mom is all I want to do now.  I also remember sitting in the nursery in disblief that two babies will be filling those cribs. How the heck would I know what to do with them. Turns, out, you just figure it out as you go. My c-section turned out to be so easy as well. Once your babies are here, it all seems so different. Try to enjoy the time you have now and know that it just gets better :-)

janabelle3

Thank you for that...  and it's funny you mentioned putting together the pack and play and how that made you feel. My husband wants to start putting together all the baby stuff like that...so he's not doing it all last minute. But I have been putting him off from doing it because I'm not quite ready to stare at it sitting on our bedroom floor yet! lol.......   I know when they arrive-I will feel more love than I have ever felt. But right now... it's panic city about everything!

janabelle3

This is EXACTLY what I do all the time. I keep thinking, for example, I was watching Halloween stuff on tv all day yesterday just relaxing and enjoying doing nothing. And I think to myself " This will be the last time for a long time I can do this" or my husband and I will spend a leisurely day getting coffee and shopping over the weekend, and I think the same thing. That I will miss these times he and I have alone....what if we don't get this again? But then I think- these two little girls will probably make our lives so much richer and more full of love. I hope my csection goes easily like yours! I am soooo scared about the whole surgery itself it's driving me nuts.

Kindle

I remember feeling that way around thirty weeks.  I was almost going crazy with the feeling.  It has passed and now I am just wondering when they will be here. 

mharts05

I was completely panic stricken the last month of my pregnancy. I am the oldest in my family and these babies were my first! I had no experience whatsoever with children. I was scared about everything from will I be a good mother, finances, to the c section (being never been in the hospital for anything, much less have surgery) to taking care of two babies! To my suprise, the c section was not that bad (the soreness afterwards was the worst) and the babies are wonderful. It is true when people say your maternal instincts will take over. Life was not just about me anymore and the way I thinked about everything changed. Being not having other kids, I did not know the difference between taking care of one vs two. You will quickly adapt and learn new tricks everyday to make getting through the day easier. I could not ever invision my life now with out both of them in it. Don't get me wrong, it gets hard some days, but it is so rewarding and their lil smiles just make my day. It is alot of fun, and my life is so much better with them in it. I read the book "Ready or not here we come!" and it gave alot of helpful hints for twin moms. GL!

saverchic

I don't have any advice, but I just wanted to let you know that I'm feeling the same way. ?I'm totally putting off packing my bag for the hospital. ?I'm afraid that if I'm ready, somehow the forces that be will know, and I'll go into labor.

saverchic

I don't have any advice, but I just wanted to let you know that I'm feeling the same way. ?I'm totally putting off packing my bag for the hospital. ?I'm afraid that if I'm ready, somehow the forces that be will know, and I'll go into labor.

janabelle3

mharts05:

I was completely panic stricken the last month of my pregnancy. I am the oldest in my family and these babies were my first! I had no experience whatsoever with children. I was scared about everything from will I be a good mother, finances, to the c section (being never been in the hospital for anything, much less have surgery) to taking care of two babies! To my suprise, the c section was not that bad (the soreness afterwards was the worst) and the babies are wonderful. It is true when people say your maternal instincts will take over. Life was not just about me anymore and the way I thinked about everything changed. Being not having other kids, I did not know the difference between taking care of one vs two. You will quickly adapt and learn new tricks everyday to make getting through the day easier. I could not ever invision my life now with out both of them in it. Don't get me wrong, it gets hard some days, but it is so rewarding and their lil smiles just make my day. It is alot of fun, and my life is so much better with them in it. I read the book "Ready or not here we come!" and it gave alot of helpful hints for twin moms. GL!

 

Thanks so much for your words- I really appreciate it 

janabelle3

saverchic:

I don't have any advice, but I just wanted to let you know that I'm feeling the same way.  I'm totally putting off packing my bag for the hospital.  I'm afraid that if I'm ready, somehow the forces that be will know, and I'll go into labor.

 

lol... I hear ya. I think I am the opposite- I am so scared and nervous, that I already have my bag half packed just so I have one less thing to worry about if and when I go into labor. Glad to hear you are feeling the same way as me (not that I want you to have anxiety-lol!) But that I am not alone.