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My 4 year old weighs 31 pounds
We just returned from the pediatrician's office with a bronchitis diagnosis and I'm catching up on the drama.
DS is almost 4.5 and weighs 31 pounds with his clothes on according to today's scale. This has been a struggle for us since his first birthday and I'm constantly trying new ideas to help him gain weight. He's not even on the chart these days and it's very bothersome. His pants won't stay up without adjusting the waist to the very last button and sometimes that is barely enough. Weight issues, on either side of the spectrum, are difficult for parents and simply agonizing. I know exactly how Jodi feels.
Do you wanna flame me too, b!tch?
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Re: My 4 year old weighs 31 pounds
Ethan's 4.5yo & in his clothes at our last appt he weighed 29.5lbs. We have the same issue w/ clothing--today he's wearing 24m jeans with the waist cinched to almost the last button possible.
I feed that kid constantly :-(
Ds is 6 y/o and roughly 34ish pounds, I think. Somewhere around there. My 2.5 y/o is a whopping 22 lbs.
Honestly, I don't even think you can compare having a tiny, skinny kid to the social stigma of having an overweight kid. I really don't get flack from anyone about my kids' stature (or else I'm just totally oblivious to it, LOL, and I admit that is a distinct possibility.) And the few times someone has said something to me it's more out of a true medical concern from certain family members but never, ever do I get the feeling that it's a reflection of my parenting, that people think I don't feed them properly, etc.
I imagine that parents of overweight kids don't experience that. They DO get judged, people are probably more likely to question their parenting, blame the parents for the child's size, and want to be nitpicky about what kind of food the parent must be offering. As a parent that must be very, very hard. The judgment and social stigma is a totally different ballpark, IMO.
Christmas 2011
I hear you. Grace is really petite and weighs only about 32 pounds and will be 4 in Feb. She has always been small and at the bottom of the growth charts. When she was younger we saw a million doctors and specialists and ran tests like crazy until her doctor finally just said that she was fine...just small.
Everyone we come in contact with thinks she only like 2.5 because of her size and she's already been made fun of by some jerky kid that lives by our house. People make snide little comments about how "tiny" and "miniscule" she is. I know they don't intend to hurt my feelings but it sure does anyway. It's not fun to worry about your child's weight or size no matter what end of the growth chart you're on.
Cleo, I think you're right; I don't worry that I'm going to be judged that much. I'm sure some people think I must never feed him or whatever, but they need to spend 5 minutes with to realize that's not the case.
My concern for Ethan is about when he's older, if there's not a significant growth spurt; I worry that bigger kids his age will pick on him or he won't be able to go places w/ his friends b/c he's going to be in a booster seat forEVER and I can see him as an older kid being really embarrassed by that--he's already upset that so many of his friends are in regular old boosters (which I wouldn't put him in at this age anyway, but still). I'm sure as he gets older, he's going to become more aware of how little he is compared to other kids his age; we just have to make sure he feels as positively about himself as possible so it doesn't have a negative impact on him.
3 yo = 27.5 lbs
5.5. yo = 38 lbs
Weight has been a struggle with the 3 yo for a long time. He is finally on the chart!
This. Exactly.
Lol! I wish it were that easy, Jodi. Glad to see you are keeping your sense of humor about this. ((HUGS))
Thank you for the hugs!
Do you think I could send Joey and Cam to your house for a month and you can make them skinny?!!? I'd do it, ya know. And Joe and I can hang at home and boom batta - keep gettin' fatta!!!
You're hilarious. Sounds like a plan.
We just had a 14 month appointment today and at 20 lbs my DS is in the 3-5%. It's concerning and although I feed him healthy meals, and still BF him I feel like it's somehow my fault.
For the record, I find it sick for people to call out something about another poster's children. A while back someone did something similar to another Nestie and it bothered me a lot. I find that kind of casual cruelty to be so revolting.
I feel this way more for ds than dd.
for the most part people didn't believe dd weighed as little as she did. at age 3 she was only 26lb. she's grown a lot int he last year and at 4 is 32lb.... jumping in percentiles on the girl chart from below 10th to around 25th. ds just had his 3 yr and is 36 1/2" and 30lb. he's short. he's the smallest boy in his class... but then my brother was too, until he hit 11y/o... between 11 and 12 he started shooting up. he's 6' tall now. skinny, but tall. I am only 4'11", dh is 6'1" and was always mistaken for being older than he was as a kid. I still think it could go either way, although I don't anticipate ds being 6' tall, I don't think he'll be 5' either.