So I am in a mom's group and this is probably around the 5th mom to have #2. None of the other 2nd time moms have had showers. We all get invite for a shower, for boy #2, with a registry at BRU (including items for the older boy) as well as a little envelope should anyone want to contribute to their "gift tree".
Most of the other moms are not going (is what I've heard). I feel bad, but I don't really want to go either. I'm not particularly close with this girl, and there's tons more things I'd rather do on a Saturday morning to be honest. Some other friends are throwing it for her, so hopefully there will be family and other folks we don't know attending.
My question: do I still have to get her a gift if I RSPV no? I didn't get any of the other 2nd time moms gifts (we all made a dinner schedule to drop off dinners for the families when they had #2). And I don't really expect or want a gift from her when I have DD in March.
WWYD? Reply no and leave it at that? Or reply no and bring a gift to her later? Or reply yes out of guilt since no one else from our group is going to show?