This is my second child and I had already decided that I would not have a shower. That anything I needed I could get on my own.
The babys dad and I had separated in September and I was even more sure that I did not want a shower. Then we got back together and he was very upset that I would not be having one. He said it was not fair to the baby that I would not be having one. I am still not sure about having one but my sisters decided to throw me one to keep everyone happy?
He also said that he would like to be a part since this will be his first child. Does anyone agree with my feelings?
Re: Unsure about wanting a Baby Shower
The baby has no clue what is going on. If you guys have been on and off again during the pregnancy, there's probably bigger issues to work out between you than whether or not to have a shower.
You can tell him that you believe showers are to welcome women into motherhood.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
It occurs to me that I don't even know whether my mother had a shower. There certainly aren't photos in an album. It's really a non-issue for the kid.
This sounds more like a symbolic issue for the father than something he actually cares about.