...loves to come over and play with my daughter. Granted, there is a 3 year age gap--she's 6 and DD just turned 3--but they get along well and have a good time together. However, she can be relentless when it comes to the after school visits. Sometimes, as soon as we pull into the garage, she's running out of the house to come over. Other times, it's 5 minutes after we arrive that she's knocking on the door. Today, she met us at the door and when I told her to come over later, she was back in less than 5 minutes. To top it off, she questions DH's and my authority. If we say "Come over later" she responds with "How come?" If we say "Not today" she says "Why not?" I'm all for children asking questions and being inquisitive about how things work and what things mean but it's coming across as her wanting her way and nothing more. I've been telling my husband that we might need to sit her down and explain to her that when we say "Later" or "Not today" that we are saying it for reasons that are sometimes beneficial to her and DD (someone being sick) or because we have certain activities that we need to take care of (DD's dance, school projects) or because we just want some downtime. I would have expected that her parents would have had this conversation with her and maybe they have but if they have, it's not working.
Do y'all think this is a quick conversation we should have with her? What would y'all do?