Update: Thoughts and Prayers Needed

jenbowman · October 2010

DH went in and talked with his superiors today. They gave him the same run-around. They brought up a conversation he had a few months back with other team leaders about warehouse policy. They were saying some of the policy's were stupid and asked DH his opinion. DH agreed. They are now throwing this in his face about not agreeing with policy (even though he follows it). It just seems really shady and out of nowhere.

DH will be going back to the nightshift starting Monday. I think this is the hardest part for me...Olivia is not going to understand why she isn't seeing her daddy as much. We won't have dinner together anymore or be able to be a family at night. How am I going to handle 2 kids alone at night?

DH is having a really hard time and feels like a failure. He is confused and hurt that this is the way he was treated. He told me he just needs me to be there for him and tell him everything is going to be okay even if I'm not sure. I'm trying to keep it together but my hormones are a mess and the tears keep flowing.

God has never let us down before. I need to keep remembering all we have and all he has done for us. God is great and he will see us through this!

Thank you for all your kind words in my earlier post.

FutureMrsCaesar · October 2010

You guys will be in my thoughts and prayers.

I had a former employer give me the shaft like that once. It really sucks. Just try and be supportive like he asked and remind him that QT isn't the only show in town. Maybe he can start looking for other jobs.

drpayne · October 2010

Is it time for him to start look for looking around for another job? I know that's tough, too. It just sounds like he isn't happy there. Maybe some good change can eventually come of this?

Soon2BMrsBoylon · October 2010

Thoughts and prayers of strength and comfort for you and DH and Miss Olivia. Just a little ray of hope, my dad worked the night shift his entire career, and while our family schedule was different from others, I probably saw more of my dad than most kids this way. What time does he head off to work? Could you maybe do dinner a little earlier or have breakfast be the "family meal" instead? The other thing is too, once I was in school, I always knew there was someone at home for me and that was something I didn't realize I had been grateful for all along until I was older (I don't know if you are SAHM or working currently so this may not apply to you).

You are a strong mommy and wife, just keep asking for that strength and it will come. I'm sorry about the work situation for your hubby, like he asked, just be there and keep telling him he is doing a good job. Hopefully the night shift management will see what a good job he does and pass the word along that way. Big hugs to you!

mrswright2006 · October 2010

I'm sorry that must be hard. Can you switch your family dinners to family breakfasts?

I totally understand your DH feeling like a failure. DH lost his great paying job last year, and has gotten a less- than-fantastic paying job. He feels so bad that we had to cut out most of the fun stuff we used to do, and is constantly worried about paying the bills. I make it a point to tell him daily that we love him, and that we are thankful for everything he does for our family (which I always have been, but it is easy to forget to verbalize it).

I hope things get better for your family. It is scary to be in your shoes, but it will get better, eventually

bkleiter · October 2010

(Ok, I am poking my head in this board early but I couldn't resist posting.)

You stated that you were sad that you weren't going to be able to have meals together or have family night. Have you thought about having breakfast or lunch together as a family? How about doing family afternoons?

I know it may sound weird but those special times are so important for your children, you, and DH. Afterall, it is the time spent together and not the time of day the time is spent.

Sorry your family is going through this.

(Ok, I will be quite again.)

CutieBean79 · October 2010

Yea, that's tough. At least he is still working and he can try to find other jobs and interview during the day. Hopefully, this will turn out to be a blessing in disguise. GL!

AshasaurusRex · October 2010

My DH worked nights for a while, it sucked, but we made all the time we did spend together count. Even though he works days now, he also goes to school full time, so we don't get to spend a whole lot of time together. All in all, it's not horrible, we just make a point to spend what time we do have together as a family and make it count. You will make it through this! I'll be praying for you guys!

kappanole · October 2010

That stinks...I think he should definitely get his resume together and start looking for other opportunities. I wouldn't want my husband to work somewhere he wasn't valued or had his words twisted and manipulated. Best of luck, it'll work out and maybe he'll find something even better than what he's got now!