XP: Poll baby gear for Holiday gifts

rrcraz7

 I asked on April '11 and got a variety so now I'm curious what a larger group thinks.

My sister and SIL and both PG and due just 3 & 1 week a head of me. They are extremly hard to shop for and I was thinking about getting them some baby stuff for Christmas. I worry that they would feel it was inapropriate and should be saved for the showers.

Personally I wouldn't care any gift is a great gift. How would you feel?

ETA: I am going to ask them how they feel and go from there. That way we can avoid any upset.

DesignsOnYou

To me, that's really more for showers. I had Christmas and a birthday before I had my first baby and the only baby-related thing I got was maternity clothes (which I really appreciated!)

Honestly, just because you're pregnant doesn't mean you don't need or would like something for yourself. Believe me, once you have the baby you rarely think of that stuff anymore anyway because you're always thinking of what you need for LO. So, you should enjoy it while you can ;-)

HydrangeaSunset

DesignsOnYou:

To me, that's really more for showers. I had Christmas and a birthday before I had my first baby and the only baby-related thing I got was maternity clothes (which I really appreciated!)

Honestly, just because you're pregnant doesn't mean you don't need or would like something for yourself. Believe me, once you have the baby you rarely think of that stuff anymore anyway because you're always thinking of what you need for LO. So, you should enjoy it while you can ;-)

 

I agree! 

TG508

my family doesnt swap gifts. there are WAY to many of us. but i would say no unless they said thats what they wanted.

i wouldnt even ask them personally. i mean i wouldnt mind getting something baby but they might. so unless they mentioned it then no.

Scout05

See, I disagree, I really only want baby stuff for Christmas. We're on a tight budget (our insurance didn't cover our RE or most of the loss testing), so anything people are kind enough to buy for the baby is such a help.

That's really all we need or want. Obviously, any gift of any kind is so appreciated, but if they ask, I will mention that our focus is just the little one right now.

becs11048

I must be in the minority here. My birthday/Christmas are both before my due date and I would be perfectly fine with getting baby related gifts. Some things on my registry, (ie Diaper bag, nursing cover, baby food processor) are more for me anyways. I would be thankful for the gift.

kilissa

ambrandau2:

See, I disagree, I really only want baby stuff for Christmas. We're on a tight budget (our insurance didn't cover our RE or most of the loss testing), so anything people are kind enough to buy for the baby is such a help.

That's really all we need or want. Obviously, any gift of any kind is so appreciated, but if they ask, I will mention that our focus is just the little one right now.

This is what I want too.  Money is tight and there is honestly nothing I would rather get.  I want baby stuff - it makes me happy and it would help us out. 

KingMama

You could go with baby-related things but that are actually for the mom-to-be.  I am due in Feb and on my x-mass list are things like Maternity PJ's and comfy clothes for when after the baby comes, bath products so i can pamper myself in those rare 5 mins I might get to myself, Glider for the baby's room because that is really for DH and I...the baby doesn't care if we are comfy as long as he is getting rocked!

This way the mom's can still feel appreciated for themselves rather than everything being solely about baby, but still get stuff that they are going to like/find useful when the baby comes that they don't need to buy themselves.

LynsiBHM

becs11048:

I must be in the minority here. My birthday/Christmas are both before my due date and I would be perfectly fine with getting baby related gifts. Some things on my registry, (ie Diaper bag, nursing cover, baby food processor) are more for me anyways. I would be thankful for the gift.

 

Yes! I think "Mommy gifts" would be better than things like onesies and diapers.  Save the cutesy baby stuff for the shower or the baby's arrival.

09Bride03

Since this is baby #3, I'm not having a shower.  I would love baby items for Christmas.  We gave away everything after #2. 

Can't hurt to ask how they feel about it. 

drpayne

Can you ask her?  I wouldn't mind getting baby stuff but I wouldn't assume that's what someone else wants.  I've got a birthday coming up and I honestly can't think of anything else to ask for right now.

trendymom

ambrandau2:

See, I disagree, I really only want baby stuff for Christmas. We're on a tight budget (our insurance didn't cover our RE or most of the loss testing), so anything people are kind enough to buy for the baby is such a help.

That's really all we need or want. Obviously, any gift of any kind is so appreciated, but if they ask, I will mention that our focus is just the little one right now.

this! Since this is my 2nd I wont be having another big shower so I would love anything baby for Christmas!

on_the_move

Sometimes I worry that I will be forgotten about as a person and only seen as a mommy.  I think Christmas gifts for the baby would probably do the same thing so I would avoid it unless that is what they ask for.  That being said I did put a new swing and carrier for this LO on a wish list because we didn't get good ones for DS and I won't be having a shower.

JGorka

ambrandau2:

See, I disagree, I really only want baby stuff for Christmas. We're on a tight budget (our insurance didn't cover our RE or most of the loss testing), so anything people are kind enough to buy for the baby is such a help.

That's really all we need or want. Obviously, any gift of any kind is so appreciated, but if they ask, I will mention that our focus is just the little one right now.

This! Our baby shower is on Nov 6.  Both DH and I have discussed this and agree that we are going to ask for baby items for Christmas.  Our budget will be even tighter after LO arrives (I'm going to be a SAHM) so any help is appreciated! You could also just get little stuff they could use no matter what i.e. diapers or wipes.  You could also make something homemade like a onsie you personalized. 

michavid

I think it is a personal preference that will differ greatly depending on who you ask.

Me personally? I only want stuff for the baby this year for Xmas. I have been trying to boycott gifts from family for years, so this year we are directing everyone to our registery. Money is tight, and this is our 1st so there is alot to buy, and honestly there is nothing that we want for ourselves.

thediarywithin

My family already knows that my dh and I want baby things for Xmas. We are both college students so we don't have the money to buy a lot of the big things by ourselves.