Hi! This is my first post, so I'll give a quick background on my situation - I had DD when I was 19 and never married the BF. I get along fine with him and SM. DD is 11 yrs old and we haven't been in court since she was 2. The schedule that works for us is every other weekend with 1-2 weeknight visits at her dads per week. He lives about 5 minutes away and in the same school district so DD can ride the bus to his house after school.
My husband was just offered a job 3 hours away. He is in a very specialized field and his current position is really the only one available in our area. Due to recent management changes he is unhappy at his current position and does worry that within the next couple years his position might be eliminated or the company might even go under. This new position is a slight promotion and slight pay increase, but more importantly it is with a more stable company. I am not opposed to moving, but I just can't see how this all would work out with DD. She is getting to the age where she is very involved with activities which would prevent her from doing many weekend visits during the school year if we moved away. The only feasible schedule I can see is for her to live with us during the school year and her dad during the summer.
So now my questions... 1) Who do I put first - my husband or my daughter? 2) Do you think my daughter would adjust ok to a new city, new school, new custody arrangement, not seeing her dad on a frequent basis, etc. 3) Anyone know what the protocol is on this? Am I even allowed to move 3 hours away? We live in Pennsylvania and the move would be to Ohio.
Thanks so much!