So my h's exwife (bm to ss 12 yrs old), has recently asked for CS. In 2007 they made a verbal (no CO, at all) agreement that DH doesn't have to give her CS anymore. It was based on 50/50 custody and a huge equity pay out that she has since spent. Well, now she apparently is broke and told my DH that she gets bread and rice from church...etc. She is great for trying to get people to feel sorry for her.
Anyway, since it was a verbal agreement, there is nothing he can do, but start giving her money. The amount she is asking for really isn't a lot ($300), but my only concern is that my DH just can't afford it. He pays his ex gf CO childsupport and it is A LOT, so every month he runs out of money and pulls $ out of his savings account. I give him more than I already should to go for paying the mortgage and utilities, and I buy groceries and I just feel mean for telling him that I refuse to give any more $ to go towards things, beause really it indirectly will be going in her pocket.
I guess I am just not sure what to do. The bulk of his money goes towards the mortgage on the house, and it so high because of the re-fi he did to pay her out. The circumstances behind that are odd too. They waited 5 years after they split to pay out equity and it was when the market was at it's highest, so now he is 100K plus neg equity in the house.
I don't even know why I am writing this, I guess to get reassurance that it is ok that I don't give him more $ to pay his exwife CS?