For my DH to find out the sex of the baby and not me? I really truly don't want to find out (I'm set in my mind) and my DH really wants to find out (he's set in his).
His reasoning is sweet in that he wants to visualize the baby and what he'll do with the 2nd child. It is his way of bonding with the baby.
With our first, we found out and I was happy we did for planning purposes but this time, I can't find any reason to find out early other than for my DH.
So, as a compromise, I was thinking he could find out at the 20 week mark and keep it as a secret from me. The rules would be that he won't tell me, won't tell any friends or family and he'll alternate between "it", "he" and "she" when referring to the baby.
Is this crazy? Do you think it is possible? I really want that surprise on that day. By the way, I pulled out all the stops to get him to agree to not find out, including bribery, and he wouldn't budge.