I DD

jlh123

wasn't trying to offend or judge

alchris

No problem at all, I understand.  Thanks for understanding too.

roaringrock

I guess I missed something?

here was my response -

hey!

I actually come from a family of all doctors and nurses (and one lobsterman.) I went to art school. go figure. yes, I knew exactly what I was getting into on our first date.

long story short, we are struggling with a few deep seeded issues that really came to the forefront when I was "told" we'd be moving to the south (far away from my supportive family and friends.) if we were in a healthy place in our marriage, of course I would go with him. I've been nothing but supportive his entire surgical residency, year of research and 2 fellowships. without getting into specifics, at the end of the day, dh never did/never will acknowledge MY sacrifices for his career. that hurts a lot. I went through 4 IVFs all alone (traveling 2 hours each way for b/w and u/s.) I've basically been a single parent for 2 years. I've supported us financially. we've moved 5 times. blah blah blah. we cannot see eye to eye on these issues. our marriage counselor is making headway getting him to "understand" but like I said in pp, time has run out. 

and yes, he made the decision knowing that ginny and I could not make such a drastic move. again, it's all about him and control and I have no choice.

 

DavezWife

alchris:

No problem at all, I understand.  Thanks for understanding too.

this. exactly.  I'm sure (and it's supported by Rock's add on to this) that RR has not made any rash decisions. She smart lay-dee.

roaringrock

man! I walk away for 5 minutes! I clearly have no idea what you are talking about. probably better that way. oy.

alchris

roaringrock:

man! I walk away for 5 minutes! I clearly have no idea what you are talking about. probably better that way. oy.

Well-stated overview above, RR.  You must have been typing as a couple of us jumped in to say you just need support right now.

jlh123

RR, thanks for your response.  I didn't know the whole back story.  I'm sorry your husband is being how he is.  I completely understand for feeling how you feel.  I really hope you and your precious daughter find some comfort soon.  I'll be sending positive thoughts to you both.

About what happened.... You had a few people jump in to let me know in a nice way that my post wasn't appropriate in so many words when I asked about different things.  I didn't want to offend you, I post here but not regular since having the twins.  I've seen posts here and there but I didn't know what was going on.  Not that you have to explain yourself to me or anything. 

Anyway, best of luck to you.  I truly wish you all the best. 

oh and I must add (I hope I'm not out of line on this sentence, so jump in if anyone thinks so lol)....

Please continue seeing a therapist.  I don't know if you see one individually but these are some tough times.  Just because marital therapy is ending, you need your support from a therapist as well.

Just my two cents that wasn't asked for I realize.  Again... all the best!

ESTH2000

::::buttinh in:::: I think you're a classy gal and that is why I love this board!!!