baby fakin'

pawcall

from the Dec 2010 board...  Yikes...

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/44038037/ShowThread.aspx#44038037

Tracy6450

  How did she keep it a secret from her husband??!?! 

Mikejustine

Holy Psycho! Please be careful and sleep with one eye open! It never ceases to amaze me how CRAZY people are.

nurseJK

eeps!

BrittRMere

Holy crap. 

izzourclue

This is exactly why we need to protect ourselves on the internet, using craigs list, FB, even with strangers on the street.  I see people even on this board posting very personal information.  I'm not suspicious of anyone on this board, but I also don't assume I "know" anyone either.  I get a little suspicious when the random first-time poster on Jan moms does her 1st post and we are all at least 6 months along now.  Fishing for info on pregnant ladies or just now have some questions about the baby you've been growing for 6 months

pawcall

Tracy6450:

  How did she keep it a secret from her husband??!?! 

I'm dying to know this too.  Insane.

broccolitree

Tracy6450:

  How did she keep it a secret from her husband??!?! 

In most cases of pseudocyesis, you may have all the symptoms of pregnancy, including a distended abdomen.  Though I totally side-eye him for missing the ultrasound, aside from that it's very likely he had no idea.

It's unclear from the post whether she was blatantly lying, eg Teri from Glee, or if she genuinely thought she was pregnant and was in deep, deep denial.  Either way, I feel bad for her.

J05Boiler

Yikes, I am freaked out. This is just like the Lifetime movie I watched yesterday.

jaejaevee

Wow.  Awful all the way around.

Fergie+1

I would be freaked out if I knew her, too!

In all sincerity, it's really sad, both for her and her family. She obviously needs help, and I'm just sorry that her husband is going to have to deal with the emotional and physical stress of 1- not really having a baby he's more than likely looking forward to, and 2- trying to get her to help and be supportive enough for her.

ETA: Assuming the marriage survives the fallout.

beth0105

wow.  no other words.

holiday819

that is so creepy.  i don't think i would be able to sleep at night if i knew someone who was faking being pregnant.  i would get my locks changed and install a security system if i didn't have one.  why do there have to be crazies out there?

Tracy6450

Fergie+1:

I would be freaked out if I knew her, too!

In all sincerity, it's really sad, both for her and her family. She obviously needs help, and I'm just sorry that her husband is going to have to deal with the emotional and physical stress of 1- not really having a baby he's more than likely looking forward to, and 2- trying to get her to help and be supportive enough for her.

ETA: Assuming the marriage survives the fallout.

That alone would send me running to file divorce papers if I was the husband. 

jjohnson6

Wow!!

 That's scary! Something you never think could happen. Sounds like the crazy lady from Private Practice a couple seasons ago. When we would go shopping in our early pregnancy my DH never wanted me to say we were expecting. He just said you never know who is "crazy" in the world. Guess he is right.

uklawgirl

sandylou

izzourclue:

This is exactly why we need to protect ourselves on the internet, using craigs list, FB, even with strangers on the street.  I see people even on this board posting very personal information.  I'm not suspicious of anyone on this board, but I also don't assume I "know" anyone either.  I get a little suspicious when the random first-time poster on Jan moms does her 1st post and we are all at least 6 months along now.  Fishing for info on pregnant ladies or just now have some questions about the baby you've been growing for 6 months

This! I figure internet sites must be breeding grounds for these kinds of sick people!

nsouplynn

Uhh, wow. Very freaking scary and psycho.

jjohnson6

sandylou:

izzourclue:

This is exactly why we need to protect ourselves on the internet, using craigs list, FB, even with strangers on the street.  I see people even on this board posting very personal information.  I'm not suspicious of anyone on this board, but I also don't assume I "know" anyone either.  I get a little suspicious when the random first-time poster on Jan moms does her 1st post and we are all at least 6 months along now.  Fishing for info on pregnant ladies or just now have some questions about the baby you've been growing for 6 months

This! I figure internet sites must be breeding grounds for these kinds of sick people!

Agree! I just went and changed all kinds of stuff in my profile (I did this before too, just more now) I also deleted all my posts that I could. Someone could just google and it could come up with the whole discussion. That part really freaks me out.

broccolitree

jjohnson6:

Agree! I just went and changed all kinds of stuff in my profile (I did this before too, just more now) I also deleted all my posts that I could. Someone could just google and it could come up with the whole discussion. That part really freaks me out.

Just fyi... that's not how the internet works.  Once it's up, it's out there forever. 

If it's been up for more than an hour, google will cache the page.  When you google, it'll still come up, but when you click the link the page will be blank... unless you click on the link for 'cached page results', in which case it comes up in full.  Which is why it's suggested that you don't use your real name, first or last, for anything on the internet.  Personally, I could care less if somebody sees what 'broc' writes, but if I were to use my real name? Bad news bears.

M&M-7/7/07

izzourclue:

This is exactly why we need to protect ourselves on the internet, using craigs list, FB, even with strangers on the street.  I see people even on this board posting very personal information.  I'm not suspicious of anyone on this board, but I also don't assume I "know" anyone either.  I get a little suspicious when the random first-time poster on Jan moms does her 1st post and we are all at least 6 months along now.  Fishing for info on pregnant ladies or just now have some questions about the baby you've been growing for 6 months

Ouch. Isn't that a bit harsh? I mean, I totally agree that you can't trust anyone on the internet, but being "new" to the board this late in the game doesn't mean you're a psycho. I'm not trying to cause drama AT ALL, but being a late-comer myself, I simply want to point out that there could be plenty of reasons why a normal, non crazy lady may not have found the board/posted/etc earlier in their pregnancy. Just a thought. (hope the quote part came out, sorry if it didn't, i've never quoted before!)

jjohnson6

broccolitree:

jjohnson6:

Agree! I just went and changed all kinds of stuff in my profile (I did this before too, just more now) I also deleted all my posts that I could. Someone could just google and it could come up with the whole discussion. That part really freaks me out.

Just fyi... that's not how the internet works.  Once it's up, it's out there forever. 

If it's been up for more than an hour, google will cache the page.  When you google, it'll still come up, but when you click the link the page will be blank... unless you click on the link for 'cached page results', in which case it comes up in full.  Which is why it's suggested that you don't use your real name, first or last, for anything on the internet.  Personally, I could care less if somebody sees what 'broc' writes, but if I were to use my real name? Bad news bears.

Yes, I do know it is up forever, the page will appear blank. I haven't said much, because I haven't been on as much as I was before. It just goes back to elementary school. There are those few kids who ruin for the whole class!!

NJBrit

I happen to know someone that faked a pregnancy, and it fvcked up a lot of lives. 

It takes an incredibly selfish and manipulative person to do something like that. I have not and will not ever be able to forgive this person for her actions, and I sure as hell won't ever be able to trust her as a result. 

sandylou

M&M-7/7/07:

izzourclue:

This is exactly why we need to protect ourselves on the internet, using craigs list, FB, even with strangers on the street.  I see people even on this board posting very personal information.  I'm not suspicious of anyone on this board, but I also don't assume I "know" anyone either.  I get a little suspicious when the random first-time poster on Jan moms does her 1st post and we are all at least 6 months along now.  Fishing for info on pregnant ladies or just now have some questions about the baby you've been growing for 6 months

Ouch. Isn't that a bit harsh? I mean, I totally agree that you can't trust anyone on the internet, but being "new" to the board this late in the game doesn't mean you're a psycho. I'm not trying to cause drama AT ALL, but being a late-comer myself, I simply want to point out that there could be plenty of reasons why a normal, non crazy lady may not have found the board/posted/etc earlier in their pregnancy. Just a thought. (hope the quote part came out, sorry if it didn't, i've never quoted before!)

I don't find it to be harsh at all. She wasn't saying she wouldn't respond and wouldn't participate with these people, just that it's a little suspicious, and I agree. I'm sure you are a very nice person and not a psycho but there's no way to know for sure.

futuremrscohick

::jaw hits the floor:: wow....

NoemiJ

izzourclue:

This is exactly why we need to protect ourselves on the internet, using craigs list, FB, even with strangers on the street.  I see people even on this board posting very personal information.  I'm not suspicious of anyone on this board, but I also don't assume I "know" anyone either.  I get a little suspicious when the random first-time poster on Jan moms does her 1st post and we are all at least 6 months along now.  Fishing for info on pregnant ladies or just now have some questions about the baby you've been growing for 6 months

I agree. I've seen some people on the bump using their e-mail address as their screen name and I cringe every time.

Tracy6450

I honestly feel like I have less personal infomation on here than I do that is in the hands of random people IRL.  Go ahead and have my email address...what are you going to do with it - email me to death?  Want to read up on how I'm not sleeping - go ahead, I'll send you the link.  DH investigates fraud for a living and have heard way too many stories that have just made me realize that nothing is secure these days.  He had a case where the receptionist at a doctor's office was stealing social security numbers from patients - it doesn't get much more personal than that.  The reality is that none of your information is safe no matter how much you try to protect it.  Sure - you're giving the saleswoman your home address & phone number to get a store credit card but how do you know that she's not making a copy of that info, running your credit score and then scoping out your house to see if it's worth the time of her and her buddies to rob you blind.  Or just like the receptionist who stole social security numbers - all of your information is now at her finger tips. She thinks you dress nicely and checks out your car - her boyfriend robs your house while you're at your appointment or your social is used for credit card fraud and could leave you thousands in debt.

I used to be more cautious with internet information but after knowing DH that's the least of my worries...just as long as I'm making sure I'm not sharing my address, phone number and social with total strangers. 

izzourclue

Tracy6450:

I honestly feel like I have less personal infomation on here than I do that is in the hands of random people IRL.  Go ahead and have my email address...what are you going to do with it - email me to death?  Want to read up on how I'm not sleeping - go ahead, I'll send you the link.  DH investigates fraud for a living and have heard way too many stories that have just made me realize that nothing is secure these days.  He had a case where the receptionist at a doctor's office was stealing social security numbers from patients - it doesn't get much more personal than that.  The reality is that none of your information is safe no matter how much you try to protect it.  Sure - you're giving the saleswoman your home address & phone number to get a store credit card but how do you know that she's not making a copy of that info, running your credit score and then scoping out your house to see if it's worth the time of her and her buddies to rob you blind.  Or just like the receptionist who stole social security numbers - all of your information is now at her finger tips. She thinks you dress nicely and checks out your car - her boyfriend robs your house while you're at your appointment or your social is used for credit card fraud and could leave you thousands in debt.

I used to be more cautious with internet information but after knowing DH that's the least of my worries...just as long as I'm making sure I'm not sharing my address, phone number and social with total strangers. 

I agree with all of this, but you don't want to make it easy for people KWIM.  Be cautious where you can and try not to make yourself crazy.  

izzourclue

sandylou:

M&M-7/7/07:

izzourclue:

This is exactly why we need to protect ourselves on the internet, using craigs list, FB, even with strangers on the street.  I see people even on this board posting very personal information.  I'm not suspicious of anyone on this board, but I also don't assume I "know" anyone either.  I get a little suspicious when the random first-time poster on Jan moms does her 1st post and we are all at least 6 months along now.  Fishing for info on pregnant ladies or just now have some questions about the baby you've been growing for 6 months

Ouch. Isn't that a bit harsh? I mean, I totally agree that you can't trust anyone on the internet, but being "new" to the board this late in the game doesn't mean you're a psycho. I'm not trying to cause drama AT ALL, but being a late-comer myself, I simply want to point out that there could be plenty of reasons why a normal, non crazy lady may not have found the board/posted/etc earlier in their pregnancy. Just a thought. (hope the quote part came out, sorry if it didn't, i've never quoted before!)

I don't find it to be harsh at all. She wasn't saying she wouldn't respond and wouldn't participate with these people, just that it's a little suspicious, and I agree. I'm sure you are a very nice person and not a psycho but there's no way to know for sure.

This exactly.  I don't mean to be harsh, but I don't trust anyone I don't know IRL and the random new posters automatically get a little more suspicion from me.  Stick around and make us comfortable.  We all had to do that.  You will be amazed at how many crazy pregnancy fakers and AEs are on the bump.  I've only been on here for a year and have seen a handful unravel myself and have heard about many more that happened prior.  Some of the longer term posters can tell some stories that will freak you right out.  

Tracy6450

izzourclue:

Tracy6450:

I honestly feel like I have less personal infomation on here than I do that is in the hands of random people IRL.  Go ahead and have my email address...what are you going to do with it - email me to death?  Want to read up on how I'm not sleeping - go ahead, I'll send you the link.  DH investigates fraud for a living and have heard way too many stories that have just made me realize that nothing is secure these days.  He had a case where the receptionist at a doctor's office was stealing social security numbers from patients - it doesn't get much more personal than that.  The reality is that none of your information is safe no matter how much you try to protect it.  Sure - you're giving the saleswoman your home address & phone number to get a store credit card but how do you know that she's not making a copy of that info, running your credit score and then scoping out your house to see if it's worth the time of her and her buddies to rob you blind.  Or just like the receptionist who stole social security numbers - all of your information is now at her finger tips. She thinks you dress nicely and checks out your car - her boyfriend robs your house while you're at your appointment or your social is used for credit card fraud and could leave you thousands in debt.

I used to be more cautious with internet information but after knowing DH that's the least of my worries...just as long as I'm making sure I'm not sharing my address, phone number and social with total strangers. 

I agree with all of this, but you don't want to make it easy for people KWIM.  Be cautious where you can and try not to make yourself crazy.  

Oh of course - I'm not going to actively put my info out there for the crazies if I can help it but going and trying to delete posts from google?  That's not going to get you anywhere on identity safety/privacy. 

KeriMac

Wow!  That is very sad and frightening!  Sounds like she is misdiagnosed - she must have some sort of personality or dissociative disorder as well.  Very very sad.

I wonder if she had psychosomatic symptoms, such as weight gain and morning sickness - like she convinced herself she was pregnant, or if she was just totally lying.  I am due in Jan and I look 12 months pregnant - no one wondered why she wasn't showing??

MsixelA

Tracy6450:

Fergie+1:

I would be freaked out if I knew her, too!

In all sincerity, it's really sad, both for her and her family. She obviously needs help, and I'm just sorry that her husband is going to have to deal with the emotional and physical stress of 1- not really having a baby he's more than likely looking forward to, and 2- trying to get her to help and be supportive enough for her.

ETA: Assuming the marriage survives the fallout.

That alone would send me running to file divorce papers if I was the husband. 

Me too. As much as I would like to say "I would be there to support her while she's going through this" (only IF it was that thing a PP mentioned where she had the symptoms and really thought it, but how could she if she intentionally faked an u/s?!)  but if I was her H and found this out I would go running!

Laliberte323

izzourclue:

This is exactly why we need to protect ourselves on the internet, using craigs list, FB, even with strangers on the street.  I see people even on this board posting very personal information.  I'm not suspicious of anyone on this board, but I also don't assume I "know" anyone either.  I get a little suspicious when the random first-time poster on Jan moms does her 1st post and we are all at least 6 months along now.  Fishing for info on pregnant ladies or just now have some questions about the baby you've been growing for 6 months

 

I believe i'm the first poster you are talking about (considering my first post was titled exactly that)! lol, you have nothing to worry about here! Just now consulting others opinions, i'm a book worm so up until this point its just been research and book advice

izzourclue

Laliberte323:

izzourclue:

This is exactly why we need to protect ourselves on the internet, using craigs list, FB, even with strangers on the street.  I see people even on this board posting very personal information.  I'm not suspicious of anyone on this board, but I also don't assume I "know" anyone either.  I get a little suspicious when the random first-time poster on Jan moms does her 1st post and we are all at least 6 months along now.  Fishing for info on pregnant ladies or just now have some questions about the baby you've been growing for 6 months

 

I believe i'm the first poster you are talking about (considering my first post was titled exactly that)! lol, you have nothing to worry about here! Just now consulting others opinions, i'm a book worm so up until this point its just been research and book advice

Nah, you're one of many newbies that have recently appeared on the Jan board.  Not thinking of any in particular.