"fathers don't feel like fathers till after the baby is born"

nadinethequeen01

who feels that this is true? i'm just wondering what y'alls experience with this particular situation was. thanks! 

Overwild

If there isn't a baby for him to parent it can be hard to feel like a father. Sort of like saying he couldn't really feel like a husband until he was married. KWIM?

Conniebird

amy_art:

If there isn't a baby for him to parent it can be hard to feel like a father. Sort of like saying he couldn't really feel like a husband until he was married. KWIM?

 

fotobird

amy_art:

If there isn't a baby for him to parent it can be hard to feel like a father. Sort of like saying he couldn't really feel like a husband until he was married. KWIM?

Agreed! For women it's so much easier to feel like a mother because you're harboring the baby, it's with you all the time and you form a bond with him/her. After the baby is born, though, DH really took to Roman. He's the best father

Ivana_Stolichnaya

I don't think I felt like a mom for awhile after my daughter was born.  The whole idea of being someone's mom was surreal to me.

CrazyToast

I agree w/ PP.  DH didn't carry the baby around or have body changes like I did.  He literally became a father on the day DD was born because she was here!

Hooly02

Definitely agree with pp DH still does not feel like a father with him being away at work so much i think once she starts moving around more and interacting with him he will finally be on board

egeiger

My husband probably won't bond really well until she can do things with him. He holds her now, but doesn't really "get it" when I try to explain that its bonding, even if they stare at each other, and that she is learning to trust him by voice, scent, etc. He just seems to have other priorities when he is home still.

HBaylies

That is how my husband said he felt, so I go with the theory, too.

That.Just.Happened

ashleysynyshyn:

I actually disagree.  I think DH took more to the parenting thing than I did when I was pregnant.  Before I even felt pregnant, was showing, or felt the baby move, he became very protective of me and our unborn child.  When he saw our baby on the ultrasound for the first time he said he felt emotions that only a parent could feel, and began making decisions for us (where to move, financial decisions, etc) as the father of our daughter.

This has been my experience with my DH as well.  I am really excited to see what happens once LO finally arrives! 

wifeandmama

I belief life begins at conception but I did not feel like a mom prior to my first being born.