Does anyone else feel this way?

belle204

I feel wrong for being so upset about Julius. I didn't get to meet him but watched him grow over the months through her updates and pics. Idk how to explain it. I don't think my family really gets it though they know I usually take this kind of thing pretty hard. Maybe it's b/c I've spent time with Tiffany and know what a beautiful person she is, maybe it's b/c I'm a mother myself. I keep finding myself crying and I can't deal with listening to people whining about their cellphone bills & such trivial stuff today. Just wondering if anyone else feels the same.

RachelJohnson

I feel the same way. My heart is literally broken for her. (

hamillm

Me, too.  I completely lost it sitting at my desk when I saw the latest pictures she has posted

ETA:  I think through message boards, social networks, blogs, etc., you get to know people very well and feel as if you were childhood friends.  I know there are people on fb I haven't seen in years that I feel I know better now than I did in high school.

Soon2BMrsWiley

I lose it at work every time I see a picture of him.  It is VERY hard for me to deal with his death.  Tiffany is a rock.  I admire her so much.

uagirl

Soon2BMrsWiley:

I lose it at work every time I see a picture of him.  It is VERY hard for me to deal with his death.  Tiffany is a rock.  I admire her so much.

This exactly.  

Last night I sat on my couch holding Charlotte and crying.  I didn't want to put her down.

ameliaandmatt

I feel the exact same way.  Even though I don't "know" her and never met Julius I am still absolutely heartbroken that something so horrible could happen to such a sweet family.

MissLMS

I know his death has been in the back of my mind constantly since yesterday. I can't stop kissing Kennedy every time I pick her up and hugging her a little longer. It makes me wonder the "what ifs" and I just can't imagine what Tiffany is going through.

crollin

I am right there with you.  I find myself sobbing and praying for Tiffany all day long.  I can't seem to get her off my mind.  I have never met Tiffany but I know she is one of the kindest people.  I wish I could wrap my arms around her.  I think it has taken a toll on us all.  I am just glad we have such a wonderful support group to get through it. 

kc0721

I know, I feel the same way.  My heart is broken for that family.  Everytime I see the pix of him I just start to cry.  I find myself praying a lot during the day, and just begging God to give them some peace and strength.  I just don't understand, and I probably never will. ***(

mrssamuels2b

I feel it too...I just saw the FB pix and am a balling mess right now...I have been sitting here holding Preston in my arms with tears streaming down my face...I never want to let him go...I know that we aren't supposed to question God so I won't but I will say that I am completely heartbroken about this...such a sweet, innocent, precious baby boy...may he forever rest in peace.

Erin&Gregg07

I feel the same way and I don't have my baby yet. I can not stop thinking about them. I have cried everytime I see a picture. It's just heartbreaking.

loyo03

I am so heartbroken for them. I know that it is all in God's plan and that Julius is well taken care of, but I just can't help but question why horrible things always happen to the best people.

It is so not fair that there are terrible people out there abusing children daily, but this wonderful family had their precious son taken away so early. I don't want to be angry, but it just makes me so upset for them.

belle204

Loyo, I've had the exact same thought.

12106mrsmun

I think part of the way we are all feeling is that because we're moms (and if we're not there yet, "we" really want to be).  Therefore, every hurting/sick/lost child might as well be yours, IMO...."mom-empathy", to coin a phrase

Personally, I had a really hard time today dealing with everything, but was able to get out with some very wonderful friends....that really helped.  But, let's face it...we're all going through a grieving process, regardless of whether we know Tiffany IRL or not.  

 

 

aubie96

I agree with all of you.  It makes me so sad and heartbroken for her and can't imagine what they are going through. 

That is why I had that post that we are an amazing group of women.  We all feel so close even though we haven't met most of each other IRL.  The bond is strong and we do whatever for each other in time of need.

I continue to pray and think constantly of them.  It's going to be difficult for a while.

I just want to give her a big hug.

star21gazer

I am late to this but yes I agree with y'all.  I am so heartbroken for Tiffany.  I can't get them off my mind, and yesterday I lost it when she so sweetly commented on one of my statuses telling Aubrey Happy Birthday...I just cried because of sweet Julius not getting to celebrate his 1st birthday.  It just doesn't seem fair, but I know not to question God, and even though we don't understand his reasoning all the time he had a reason and purpose for this.  It really makes you not want to take anything for granted, and to hug you LO's tight. 

 

ameliaandmatt

12106mrsmun:

I think part of the way we are all feeling is that because we're moms (and if we're not there yet, "we" really want to be).  Therefore, every hurting/sick/lost child might as well be yours, IMO...."mom-empathy", to coin a phrase

Personally, I had a really hard time today dealing with everything, but was able to get out with some very wonderful friends....that really helped.  But, let's face it...we're all going through a grieving process, regardless of whether we know Tiffany IRL or not.  

 

 

Wonderfully said, Fran.  I completely agree.

soon2Bmrs.AGEE

I am late on this too but I completely feel where everyone else is coming from. The bond this board has is like no other. I only know a handful of you personally and only met Tiffany once but I feel so close to you all at time like this. It amazes me how what we can do when we form together. I love you girls.

I've been thinking about Tiffany constantly. It almost angers me that this has happened although I know that is not the right way to feel. I have cried and gotten goosebumps so much as if J was my own. I am so glad she had a photo shoot the day before he passed, what a blessing in disguise that was. I will continue to pray for the Torres family and Julius will live on forever in our hearts. Rest in peace little man.

starsmaycollide

In my personal experience bonds that start 'online' can be very strong. I've had friends that started online but have lasted for a long time, more than some I meet in person at times!  Friends are friends no matter how they meet or where they live. I might not have gotten to meet Tiffany or her sweet baby, but she is a friend just the same. And it's tough having a face and a name to connect with SIDS....it seems so unfair that Tiffany and Dennis have to experience such pain. Julius was so precious.

And yes, those pictures were so beautiful. He was gorgeous. I think about them and Julius all the time. I just pray they know some peace, that he was loved and impacted many in his short lifetime. They will always be his parents, and he will always be remembered.

aubie96

starsmaycollide:

In my personal experience bonds that start 'online' can be very strong. I've had friends that started online but have lasted for a long time, more than some I meet in person at times!  Friends are friends no matter how they meet or where they live. I might not have gotten to meet Tiffany or her sweet baby, but she is a friend just the same. And it's tough having a face and a name to connect with SIDS....it seems so unfair that Tiffany and Dennis have to experience such pain. Julius was so precious.

And yes, those pictures were so beautiful. He was gorgeous. I think about them and Julius all the time. I just pray they know some peace, that he was loved and impacted many in his short lifetime. They will always be his parents, and he will always be remembered.

aubie96

starsmaycollide:

In my personal experience bonds that start 'online' can be very strong. I've had friends that started online but have lasted for a long time, more than some I meet in person at times!  Friends are friends no matter how they meet or where they live. I might not have gotten to meet Tiffany or her sweet baby, but she is a friend just the same. And it's tough having a face and a name to connect with SIDS....it seems so unfair that Tiffany and Dennis have to experience such pain. Julius was so precious.

And yes, those pictures were so beautiful. He was gorgeous. I think about them and Julius all the time. I just pray they know some peace, that he was loved and impacted many in his short lifetime. They will always be his parents, and he will always be remembered.

well said and agree 100%

12106mrsmun

soon2Bmrs.AGEE:

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I've been thinking about Tiffany constantly. It almost angers me that this has happened although I know that is not the right way to feel. Rest in peace little man.

Actually, anger is a very appropriate feeling when grieving. I took a lot of psychology classes in college and from what I remember, anger is the 2nd stage of the grief process. Don't be so hard on yourself....it's very normal emotion to have.

Leelee06

I do too.  I have been randomly crying since I learned of him passing and have been so sad.  To the point of my mom being worried about me.  Today I told her that I was feeling better and I feel like I have no right to feel better.  Things have been pretty rough in my family for the past six months and I feel like all the time I felt down about that, I shouldn't have because for the most part my family is here and we're all healthy and I have my sweet baby with me.  No matter how rough things have been, I know Tiff has it so bad right now and my feelings cannot compare in any way.  I guess another thing that has been upsetting me is that SIDS could have happened to my baby just as it happened to hers.  That terrifies me so much and has really made me so fearful that I've been watching Eli like a hawk while he sleeps and lays.

This horrible thing has happened to a friend of ours and it's natural for us to feel so many things for Tiffany and ourselves.