DH's heartbreaking comment...

whispergrrl

As many of you know, my DH has a daughter from a previous marriage. We have issues with his ex - she is so spiteful and does anything she can to create problems. We are actually meeting with a lawyer next week to discuss whether the lawyer feels we have a case to go back to court for more visitation.

Anyway, DH has been very upset lately that he doesn't get to be as involved in his daughter's life as he wants to be (due to custody arrangements, his ex being a biitch, and the school not really helping much).

The other day, he says to me "We need to hurry up and have more kids...I really miss having a kid around full time". I patted his hand and said "I'm trying as hard as I can!". I didn't let him see it, but I was on the verge of tears.

Also...a little over a week ago, we were shopping at Toys R Us for birthday gifts for his daughter. While I was looking at all the pink sparkly girly stuff, DH wandered off. I eventually found him...playing with all the boy toys (toy guns, cars and trucks, action figures, etc.). It breaks my heart to see how much he wants another child....and I haven't been able to give him that yet. He doesn't show it often..I think he feels like he has to be strong for me...but when he does show it, it just breaks my heart... 

theworms

((HUGS)) cutie.

i wish this were easier for all of us

Yellow_Daisy

I have a lot of empathy for the men dealing with IF.  As women we are, in my opinion, just better equipped naturally to deal with emotional hardships.  Men on the other hand feel they have to be strong, the rocks for us and when they breakdown it is just all that much more heartbreaking. 

Hang in there.

meg_koole

  I would definitely would have responded the same why you did about the hurrying up.  Good for you for handling it well!  Just reading it made me tear up!

whispergrrl

Thanks, ladies! Most of the time I'm pretty strong through everything...I get upset about things, but don't let DH see...and most of the time I guess I assume it isn't bothering DH as much since he already has a child and usually doesn't show his emotions about this. It was kind of a wakeup call for me that this is really getting to him too...

I'm so thankful I have this board to vent to, cry with, and just generally commiserate with! 

hoping4more

I'm sorry, this journey is so hard on us too. 

Dh is very affected by it, I have my DD from a previous relationship and although he treats her like his own I know it hurts him. He too tries to keep it inside and "be strong for you" I know inside he is so torn up.

redsoxbono

{{hugs}}

Kuleama

(((BigHugs))) I wish none of us had to deal with this!

etoyama

Aw hon, big ((HUGS))

bbakersgirl75

((Hugs)) I'm so sorry hun, I'm sure that can't be easy on you.

amcrd

All too familiar with  your situation, biitchy ex and all! You know what's hardest on me is that we have MIF and it KILLS me that his one good "specimen" created a child with *her*! Don't understand why bad things happen to good people...wishing none of us had to deal with this!

GL!

inlove731

Oh my goodness..it's so hard.  ((hugs))