Soo overwhelmed!

ashf4i

I don't know what I was expecting, but I'm so completely wiped out.  last night was the first time LO let me sleep for 2 consecutive hours - he's usually up every 45mins to an hour wanting to nurse.  During the day, he cries if I put him down.  Is it possible to hold a newborn TOO much?  He's fine if my mom or DH holds him for a min then puts him down, but not me...  I am just sooo tired and overwhelmed... any words of advice or encouragement? I would really appreciate it

Thanks ladies! 

kelleylk

Oh, I definetely remember all that you are saying.  I promise it will get better.  I would say no, that you can't hold your newborn TOO much.  The nursing will get better as well.  Your LO will eventually space his/her feedings out to around 2 or 3 hours during the day.  And hopfully 4 to 6 hours at night.  Every baby is different on when this happens though. 

I think he is crying when YOU put him down because your his food source.  Plus...your his "mommy", of course he wants you!    I was overwhelmed for several weeks, but I got through it.  Hang in there!  It will be better soon.  

Oh, and it helped for me to limit all the visitors.  I couldn't take all the visitors in and out of my house all day.  Don't feel bad to tell people to come at a later date.

faithfulfaith

hang in there!! every moment you will look back and cherish. its fine if someone else holds him or puts him down. he can feel your tiredness. you are doing a great job and sound like a great mommy!!!!! it will get easier!! i remember feeling like you.

ashf4i

Thanks, at what age roughly did your lo's start sleeping for longer periods?  DH insists that I put him down and let him cry, but it breaks my heart to think of doing that - he seems too young to be allowed to cry himself to sleep...

VejjoMama

Your LO is too little to cry it out, IMO. It does get muuuuuch easier. I noticed she would take longer in between feedings and sleep longer, and more soundly around 1 month. You can do it mama! My LO wanted the constant holding too. She still likes to be held, but is more content to sit in her bouncer or lay on her play mat. 

faithfulfaith

My LO started sleeping longer around 1 month. do not let him cry it out!!! just remember he just came out of a secure environment and is being overwhelmed with everything too! he needs you to soothe him until he is about 4 months at least! i truly believe children allowed to CIO in the early months have abandonment issues. your DH is wrong!