IF is like buying a new car...

kdussault

Have you ever noticed that after you buy a new car, suddenly you notice so many more of the same kind of car on the road? I sometimes feel like IF is that way too, until you are experiencing it, you really have no idea how common it is.  Just a random thought I have had...

MinM

I never noticed how flippant it was to say, "Oh, you can always adopt, or try that IVF." Because those options are SO easy. I know people who say that are well-meaning, but it is really ignorant.

Also, my CW who acts like a badass because she had twins. She thinks it makes her better than "regular women" who have just one child at a time. I guess that makes me "not a woman" because of my H's MFI. Thanks, lady. (By the way, she took Clomid, so it isn't like she didn't have any help - she isn't exactly super-woman).

huskerbaby

Honestly, I was thinking the guts of the post would be more along the lines of:  

Because I could have bought a new Camry with what I've spent in the last year.

Sorry- I'm a little bitter still...   

Amie8301

It's more like that in the sense that I now spot baby bumps.... everywhere and it feels like everyone around me it pregnant!

I wish there were more IF people in real life around me (I'm definitely not wishing it on anyone, I just wish I knew of more people around me that have gone through it)

kdussault

I guess it could totally be taken that way too (spending enough to have bought a new car), but...

It seems like this may have come off the wrong way to some people.  I was simply noticing that when I bought my car I then noticed the same car everywhere.  And then now that we are dealing with IF, I am noticing more people dealing with it is well... not saying that more people ARE dealing with it, or that I am wishing it on anyone, it is just that your senses are heightened and are noticing it more.

As far as the baby bumps everywhere... yes that is totally true!  I feel the same way, it sometimes feels like a cruel joke that someone is rubbing it in my face.

I'm sorry to anyone who may have read my original post the wrong way... I by no means meant that, it was just an observation that I had... hope I cleared it up a little bit 

MinM

I was just saying what *I* have noticed. My CW who acts like she is better than "normal" woman even went through unspecified IF and is still so insenstive. I guess the insensitivity is what I have noticed.

huskerbaby

I didn't take any offense and I hope that you all didn't take any from my comment.  I was just trying to make light of a crappy situation.  Infertility stinks in general, that's all.   

kdussault

maybe it was me who read yours wrong then thanks for the response I understand your posts better now I felt so bad thinking I had offended someone sometimes reading texts/posts/emails are difficult. and PS. IF really does suck