Ok, now I'm just being a brat

midnight*sun

I offered the air mattress to MIL and told her we could set it up in the upstairs living room (that we NEVER use) for her and FIL to use. She said they'd be fine wherever, but suggested we set it up in the nursery......

Honestly, I was hoping they would pass or get a hotel. Now I've screwed myself. I don't want them to stay in the nursery. I'm being a brat I know, but that is our daughter's room and I want it to be perfect when she comes and know MIL will be going through EVERYTHING. Plus, I'll have to make room for all their luggage in the nursery which isn't that big at all. MIL has designated the bottom two drawers of the dresser that is currently in the room and a small section of the closet to her clothes that she leaves there and I don't want to find something like that after we've redone the room. I just don't want anyone staying in the nursery other than Lilli. It isn't a spare room.

They'll end up staying in there though. How can I possibly justify them not without sounding like a complete psycho jerk? Urghhhh....

Ceefome

Tell them it's the upstairs living room or a hotel.  They do not get to stay in the nursery, and it's not negotiable.   It's for the baby and you don't want to be having to deal with them or their stuff in there.   And if they say you're being unreasonable, tell them too bad, you're pregnant, and that's the way it is.  And your DH better back you up, or he'll be in the upstairs living room with them!

wmramsel

Shove every piece of baby furniture and baby gear in there you can and do it in a very space inefficient way.  If there is no room, they cannot stay there.  Viola!  

tinytraxx

You arent being a brat, I would hate that. But this is the best time to stand up to her now that the subject is on the table. Tell her "I think I will stick to the plan of setting you guys up in the living room because we are working on the nursery now.

Dont let her push you around (which is what she is trying to do)

Just stick to your guns and dont budge. You arent required to. 

sandylou

wmramsel:

Shove every piece of baby furniture and baby gear in there you can and do it in a very space inefficient way.  If there is no room, they cannot stay there.  Viola!  

This!!

tinytraxx

Oh, and as a backup plan, if they do come, and want to stay in there.....just make it super uncomfortable for them. Fiill it with furniture and empty boxes thst havent been broken down. toys, vacuum cleaner, paint cans, whatever.

She'll get the point.

pmanolides

sandylou:

wmramsel:

Shove every piece of baby furniture and baby gear in there you can and do it in a very space inefficient way.  If there is no room, they cannot stay there.  Viola!  

This!!

My thought exactly! 

"Oh sorry, horrible MIL- there's just no room in there right now! I never knew babies could have so much STUFF!"

midnight*sun

pmanolides:

sandylou:

wmramsel:

Shove every piece of baby furniture and baby gear in there you can and do it in a very space inefficient way.  If there is no room, they cannot stay there.  Viola!  

This!!

 

My thought exactly! 

"Oh sorry, horrible MIL- there's just no room in there right now! I never knew babies could have so much STUFF!"

I like the way you guys think!

heathernacole

LOL i love this post!!! Sounds like my MIL, luckily with all fingers and toes crossed i will never have to worry about housing my IL's since they live in the same town and their daughter lives just a block over from me, if they were to ever need a place to say hopefully they would choose her first!!!!

While i do not have a problem with anyone staying in the nursery right now, because our house is small and our nursery is also a spare room for the time being, No one has stayed in there except my 2 year old nephew, and of course that does not bother me!! If i did have a problem with it i would tell my DH, and if he did not have my back i would simply act like the hormonal you-know-what that i can be, and make sure that he dealt with the situation or i would simply tell them "i'm sorry but i told your son that you all would just have to stay upstairs and thats where i've set up the air mattress!"

I know how in-laws can be, you just have to start acting like them. Do what you want and pretend you did not even know it would be a problem. Have thier room already set up for them when they get there and let it be!!!! LOL

wmramsel

midnight*sun:

pmanolides:

sandylou:

wmramsel:

Shove every piece of baby furniture and baby gear in there you can and do it in a very space inefficient way.  If there is no room, they cannot stay there.  Viola!  

This!!

 

My thought exactly! 

"Oh sorry, horrible MIL- there's just no room in there right now! I never knew babies could have so much STUFF!"

I like the way you guys think!

I've had a lot of practice....  

Serpentesbride

It is your daughter's room and that is that. If you happen to be breastfeeding you have even more power. You need a personal place to breastfeed your daughter. That would be her room not your MIL and FIL away room

DaniGirl0517

I hope T backs you up on this!  It is the upstairs living room or a hotel as pp said.  It is not rude for you to want to keep Lilli's room for her only.  Part of the joy of pregnancy is setting up the nursery and keeping it that way.  You shouldn't have to worry about rearranging stuff or working around MIL's things.  I'm such a brat I'd say she can't leave anything at your house, she can bring what she needs when she visits, you aren't saving closet space for her.  With all she's done before it's just another power play that she's doing.  Let her know that if she is staying you will set her up in the upstairs living room.

jmul10

Why in the world would she request to stay in the nursery?! Gotta love MILs!! L O L

But I agree with the other ladies. Make it totally crowded. Sorry, MIL .. NO ROOM!

izzourclue

Just say they won't fit comfortably in the nursery and you will have done a deep clean by then and don't want anyone staying in there before the baby is born.  You don't need to justify yourself anymore than that.  Your house, your baby.  I don't understand your MIL's obsession with this particular room and frankly I wouldn't be catering to her obsession.  Just say it will be set up in the room you have available or they could stay in a hotel.  If she gives you sh!t, just say sorry, that's the only set up you have. 

jaejaevee

I would definitely stand my ground on this one.  My MIL is BSC and I've had to work really hard at getting her to respect my boundaries.  Hopefully your H is supportive of this, otherwise it's going to be a tough battle.