Is your husband helpful?

MrserinJ

My husband honestly does half of the work. He works from home so that helps but he really doesn't complain at all. I do the first night feeding and he does the second (Ds is bottlefed pumped milk) and he changes just as my diapers. He also does his share of housework. I have friends tel me I'm soooo lucky and while I feel very blessed, I kind of expect him to do his fair share. I take care of the kids all day while he works and I believe parenting is a 2 person job. I wouldn't have settled for less. My friends' husbands have never gotten up for a feeding and forget watching the baby on their own. It just makes me sad for them. I am blessed to have a wonderful man in my life by more than this, DH WANTS to do ll of this. He feels it gives him a wonderful bind with his kids an be is just as confident taking care of our boys as I am. I know this is the reason him and my first son are so close. What about your husbands? Are they helpful? How do you feel about parenting responsibilities and division of work?

MrsH44

DH stays home with DS all day while I'm at work (he works from home) plus he gets up with DS at night if he gets up more than once. He never complains about diapers or bottles or getting spit up/peed/pooped on. He is extremely helpful!!! He's an incredible, very proud, dad.

Hallicatgirl74

I consider myself incredibly lucky as well as my dh is soooo helpful.  He does just as much as I do (except breastfeed, har har).  The best part is that he doesn't understand why everyone else (ie my mom) is so impressed with how much he does... because he just thinks its a normal thing!  He's looking for work right now and I'm on mat leave, but have been sick with gallbladder issues and just had surgery. DD is only 2 months old.  My DH certainly puts in his fair share and then some!  I've hardly heard any complaints, only the occassional need for "me time" from him... which usually means going to the gym, for a run, or out with the boys... and I wish he'd do that more often because he deserves it.

jazzyexpo

DH is very helpful. When he gets home from work, he helps with DD and/or the housework. I usually go to bed around 11pm and he watches DD and does the feedings til about 4am. He wakes me up then and it's my turn. He sleeps til about 11am or 12. He goes to work & it all starts again. He loves it and doesn't complain. He sees the night time as bonding time with DD.

monkski

Mine is really helpful as well. It makes me mad though that people he works with comment all the time how they never even knew their babies woke up at night because mom did everything. They don't understand why DH gets up with me. I can do it myself with twins (EBF), but it is so much quicker and easier when he helps me wake them up, change diapers and get them back to sleep and then we both get better sleep.

Violet_McPurpleson

MH is extremely helpful. Though, like you I don't necessarily consider myself lucky, because I wouldn't have settled for less.

 He's a firefighter and works 24 on 48 off and when he is home he changes 90% of the diapers and 80% of the house work. He also wakes up with me in the night. I do the feedings and he does the rest.

It works for us, because he gets nap time at work and on the days that he's gone I do everything myself. 

azsheena

My DH is very helpful too. He takes LO when he gets home if he is awake and does a lot of the evening feeds. Usually I will go to bed between 9-10 and DH stays up to do the late feed. I do the one in the middle of the night and we split the one at 5/6 AM- usually I feed, DH burps and soothes while I pump. I have been sick the last three days (temp of 103.8) and DH did 90% of the work. I am so grateful. He has a friend whose philosophy was "that's why you get maternity leave- it's your job." I tell him that is why I married DH and not him.

delg23

My husband is moderately helpful. I SAH so I don't expect much but I'd appreciate a little more. I'd like him to help so that he would be more familiar w/ our son's idiosyncrasies rather than just for the sake of relieving me of any more work. Though his dad's stupid gf made such a big deal because he changed one diaper this past weekend. That pissed me off because I work so hard and have a terrible sleeper so I am exhausted. Not that I don't appreciate it, but its not like he just saved the world. I certainly don't want him to be any slacker & yea I wouldn't settle for less. 

llsarmy

Nope! He's deployed.... So no help for this mamma

Amberzxoxo

Yes very helpfull. I am very lucky.

dec341

DH is amazing w/ LO!!  I feel so bad b/c I got frustrated w/ him this weekend.  LO had a super meltdown and I got stressed and took it out on him.  Which I shouldn't have b/c he is such a good daddy!  Like pp said, I would never accept any less.  This is his child as well and he should be changing diapers.  My mother makes comments all the time about how good he is and how my dad was not helpful at all but I look at it as she allowed that.  If my DH starts slacking or I need help, I make sure to ask him for what I need.  DH is really enjoying his role!

joolz425

yes he is very helpful with baby. with chores...well, that's why we have a housekeeper.

Stef6385

Violet_McPurpleson:

MH is extremely helpful. Though, like you I don't necessarily consider myself lucky, because I wouldn't have settled for less.

 He's a firefighter and works 24 on 48 off and when he is home he changes 90% of the diapers and 80% of the house work. He also wakes up with me in the night. I do the feedings and he does the rest.

It works for us, because he gets nap time at work and on the days that he's gone I do everything myself. 

I could of wrote this myself! DF is an EMT and FF, and when he is home he is soooo helpful. Helps prepare all the meals, does cloth diaper laundry, dipe changes, restocks my water/snacks while I'm BFing. Since I am EBF I am the only one getting up during the night and it doesn't bother me one bit. He works hard for DD and me, and needs his sleep!