Are you inviting out of town people to your shower?

kpv

My mom thinks I should invite a few of my close friends who live out of town to the shower (3 people). They live far enough away that they would have to fly to the shower, so there is no way I expect them to come. I'm not sure if I should invite them or not. On the one hand, they are close friends so it's nice to include them and I'm sure they would plan on sending a baby gift at some point anyway. On the other hand, I don't want it to seem like a gift grub. Thoughts?

nohalo21

I have 3 friends that would also have to fly to make it. I mentioned to my husband to include them because that is what they would want. I know that there is no way they can make it but I know my friends would want to be included no matter the distance.

pawcall

My only out of towners were family members - and only MY family and not DH's - because my family would be really upset if they didn't get invites (even though not a single one of them will be coming).  there is one invitee from Jersey - but i don't think that counts as out of town really (I live in PA).

Under normal circumstances, I wouldn't invite someone that I knew couldn't come.  They know I'm having a baby and know where to send a gift if they want to.  But you know your friends - ultimately only you can really judge whether they'd want/expect an invite knowing they couldn't come.

Shpinz2011

I invited my our of town family and friends. I knew they would be upset if they didn't receive one, plus I wanted them to be included. Actually one of my friends is flying in for the shower and I am so excited!!!

marclovesme

cdobry01:

My only out of towners were family members - and only MY family and not DH's - because my family would be really upset if they didn't get invites (even though not a single one of them will be coming).  there is one invitee from Jersey - but i don't think that counts as out of town really (I live in PA).

Under normal circumstances, I wouldn't invite someone that I knew couldn't come.  They know I'm having a baby and know where to send a gift if they want to.  But you know your friends - ultimately only you can really judge whether they'd want/expect an invite knowing they couldn't come.

Same for me.  DH wanted me to invite some of my sorority sisters (all of whom are WAAAAY out of town), but I feel like it might appear like a gift grab...

starsmaycollide

I am wondering about this too, but I think I am. My best friend can't make it, and neither can my MIL-but I will be sending invites to them because they are officially invited anyway. I've already told both I completely understand they can't travel to come from out of state-but I feel like it would be weird for them to not get an invite, because it's MIL's first grandchild and my best friend will be the godmother.

williaw

I invited a couple of my close friends that live in other states, just because I wanted to include them. I'm sure they know I don't expect them to come all this way...

Auntiejo9

Since I am a nomad and have lived all over a lot of my friends live out of state so to include everyone my sister is doing an online part too. I am not sure how it will all work but she assured me these have happened before and can even be fun!