Brady's 3rd birthday party is tomorrow.
I paid for 12 kids (gymboree- they have a set amount per party and you pay extra if more show up). I had exactly 12. I was thrilled. Then 2 cancelled - fine- it happens- they had good reasons (1 has poison ivy!).
But 6 kids (their parents) never even RSVP'd. I have no idea if they are coming or not. It makes a huge difference in cost, in the amount of food and supplies I bring and the favors. It's easy to say to assume they aren't coming but in the back of my head, I see a kid in tears because they don't have a favor bag.
2 of the moms I know fairly well from daycare and would ask directly but I am on maternity leave so my dh is picking up/dropping off our son until I go back to work so I don't see them. 4 moms I don't know at all. I don't have any of their numbers so I can't even call. It's kids from his daycare so I put the invites in their cubbies (so can't claim lost in the mail either).
It isn't the end of the world. It's just rude. Didn't we all go through RSVP hell when we got married? You'd think after we all dealt with this issue in our weddings (I assume everyone had SOMEONE who didn't RSVP) that moms would be better at RSVP'ing.
Anyone else go through this too?
Re: Why don't people RSVP to kid parties?
DD -- 5YO
DS -- 3YO
I agree it is rude and I have been on both sides of it. My wedding it really annoyed me, and I had people show up who didn't RSVP, but it all worked out.
I was very hurt when no one RSVPed to my son's birthday party except my SIL, but she said, I can't come, but her son/daughter/DH might come. How do you plan around I might come. I was very hurt when my brother and his family verbally said they would be there and didn't bother to show or call.
I can say I forgot to RSVP to a birthday party DS was invited to. It was a little girl in his classroom, I didn't even know which little girl it was, DS had only been in the room 1 week. We got busy and the next thing I knew the date to RSVP had passed as well as the party. I felt bad, but it is hard though at times being invited to a birthday party for a child that you cannot even identify.
I know the mom was trying to be nice and invite all the kids in the room, but the kids are 2, and probably wouldn't even notice if they weren't invited, but I still have no excuse.
i have 2 kid parties to RSVP to that i haven't yet - they are in a couple weeks.... the parents only put phone numbers on the invite to RSVP to - not an email - which drives me fvcking nuts b/c the few times I think about calling i have to worry "is it dinner time? is it too late? etc".... email is SO much easier- i don't know why people don't put that on invites - i RSVP to people RIGHT away when i have their email.
but all in all - people are aholes and it happens.