Advice needed: seeing a pg friend Saturday

HappyLaLa0914

I am going to be seeing a pregnant friend on Saturday at my brother-in-law's birthday party.  I haven't seen her since August when I told her I was pregnant too.  She is due at the end of December so she is 12 weeks ahead of where I should be.  I have a terrible time seeing pregnant women right now - it's all I can do to not break down in tears.  I have no idea how I am going to handle seeing her and her 30w belly face-to-face. Any advice? 

inlovewithB

I have been sitting here trying to think of something helpful to say....If I were in your shoes I would just keep repeating the following over and over in my head "Her pregnancy does not hurt my chances of having a healthy baby"

carcrashheart

just be prepared to be upset and to cry, and maybe let her know so that she can comfort you.

1 month after my m/c we had to attend a 1st birthday party for a friend of ours. DH didn't want to go, bc the loss was still fresh, but i knew we had to go. to face the fear. to jump the hurdle. to move forward. so, we did. i didn't make it 10 steps in to the room full of babies and kids before i broke down. our friend (the baby's mom) knew i was likely going to be upset. she comforted me and let me hide in the kitchen while she talked to me and let me calm down. it sucked. but it needed to happen, ya know?

HappyLaLa0914

Thanks ladies.  If this was one of my best friends, it would be a little easier I think, but this is the wife of one of DH's college buddies.  While I've known her for years, it's not as easy for me to let myself break down in front of her as it would be one of my own close friends.  I'm dreading the whole encounter. 

Kira98

I have a similar situation tomorrow, only it is my pregnant friend's wedding, so I have to put on a happy face.  Her EDD is just before mine and it will be my first time seeing her as well.  I have been crying a lot the last few days, and I think my subconscious is trying to get it all out beforehand. 

I hope we both make it through, good luck!

HappyLaLa0914

Kira - I have been doing the same thing.  I had a total break down last night with DH, telling him he may have to pick me up off the floor on Saturday.  I had been doing so well until I went in for my 6-week follow-up appointment last Friday. I lost it in the doctor's office and have been super-sensitive ever since.

h0b0girl

I will be in a similar situation this weekend.. we planned for our friends to stay with us this weekend months ago (prior to my MC).  She is due 3 months to the day before what would have been my due date. Neither of them know I was pregnant but they both suspected it.  I have been dreading tonight for weeks but my husband and I decided not to cancel as we wont have the chance to see them again for a while.  We decided that we are going to tell them tonight.. fingers crossed I can keep it together.  I just broke down this morning so hoping that is the only time I will cry today.  The only advice I can offer is to realize that many women successfully have babies every day and we will be there some day as well! That is what my husband keeps telling me.

bryanandkatrina

I'm sorry I can't offer any advice, as I am still trying to figure that situation out myself - but I wanted to say good luck and I am sorry that you even have to go through that ((((hugs))))

jertie

That just sucks.  I dreaded coming back to work for that reason - there was a lady that had my same due date.  And wouldn't you know it - I ran into her practically the minute I entered the building.  It wasn't as bad as I built it up in my head.  I'm not going to say that I wasn't upset, but I was definitely more jealous than anything else.  I went to my office, shed a couple of quiet tears and then I was ok.  I would really recommend asking DH to help run interference for you if it looks like you need help.  Good luck!

HappyLaLa0914

Thanks again everyone!  I hope that the scenario in my head is much worse than what the actual encounter will be like.  At least I can have a few beers to take the edge off, right?