WWTTCALD?

nbbride06

My brother got engaged a few weeks ago.  They just announced that they're getting married in Sweden on June 18.  I would be so upset if I couldn't attend my brother's wedding, but really don't want to TTA for a few months.  And, if (keeping my fingers crossed) it worked this month, then I'm out of luck anyway.

My sister says to hope we don't get KU in the next few months (I almost killed her through the phone but then remembered that she's 23).  My mom says not to worry about it and that I have more important things to worry about.  DH thinks I should talk to my brother (which I totally don't think is appropriate because they should absolutely get married when and where they want).

 WWYD?   

Gummybear

I am with your mom. I am a FIRM believer in not changing your life because of TTC. I don't skip glasses of wine, fun outings like rollercoaster, xrays or other tests because I *might* be pregnant. Likewise I would not stop TTC because I *might* be big and pg. and a bad time.

jmhuff

My thoughts are keep TTC and if it happens then it happens. I would not ask your brother to move his wedding date! If you can't go you can't go!

christyjolee

I would keep doing what you are doing and then cross the bridge regarding the wedding when you get to it. 

JennVerrill

I agree with your Mom, don't stress about.   ( and hey your sister is giving us 23 year olds a bad name )

Izabella22

I'd continue ttc, hopefully this month is your month and there won't be any reason to debate about whether you'll be ok to fly, but I wouldn't put anything on hold at the moment. My feeling on far-off weddings is that the B&G have to accept that most people won't be able to make it for one reason or another, especially with less than a year notice. Where he's your bro I'm sure he'll understand if you can't come, as much as that would suck. Could you bargain that they have a reception at home after the wedding to celebrate if you can't make it?

nbbride06

jmhuff:

My thoughts are keep TTC and if it happens then it happens. I would not ask your brother to move his wedding date! If you can't go you can't go!

I refuse to ask my brother that...totally not acceptable.  DH's family is a little weird sometimes (ok, oftentimes), so they seem to think that is totally normal... 

itsmegin

Your mom is right-you have more important things to worry about. No your brother shouldn't have to change his wedding plans-date or location, but getting married in another country, he is asking a lot of the people attending. He must know this and can't be angry if you can't make it because you can't fly. It would suck, but you can watch the video later, it's not worth derailing your life plans over.

carcrashheart

i agree with pp, i would just keep moving forward with your original plan and just see what happens. cross that bridge when you get to it!

damabo80

If you can't go, you can't go. I wouldn't put TTC on hold for a baby that might or might not be there.

My brother got married in London and I wasn't able to go. Life goes on.

millejj1

Gummybear:

I am with your mom. I am a FIRM believer in not changing your life because of TTC. I don't skip glasses of wine, fun outings like rollercoaster, xrays or other tests because I *might* be pregnant. Likewise I would not stop TTC because I *might* be big and pg. and a bad time.

ITA. Keep doing what you're doing and worry about it when you get there. If it happens soon enough that in June you won't be able to fly then you set up a computer  with skype and live feed the wedding over the internet. Then you're "there" and happily pregnant at the same time!

 

 

bryanandkatrina

We are personally putting TTC first - it's our life, we've got to do what's best for us and if/when it happens it also "conflicts" with something then we'll cross that bridge when we get to it.

Good luck!

nbbride06

JennVerrill:

I agree with your Mom, don't stress about.   ( and hey your sister is giving us 23 year olds a bad name )

Sorry  

RunSchwartzRun

I agree with everyone else.  Don't put TTC on hold.  I hope you get KU soon, but if not, I loooove Sweden.  I was there for a wedding once too, and it was awesome (but I hope you can't go!)

JennVerrill

It's okay, just wanted you to know that not ALL 23 year olds are silly!

mundayem

I totally agree that I would keep TTC and cross that bridge when you get to it. Sweden is a long way to go for a wedding and I'm sure he'll understand.

Ann003

I totally agree.  Your brother should understand if you can't go.

olivia_eve

I had this exact same thing happen to me.  My brother was going to get married next summer.  We decided to start TTC just a little early to hopefully have a baby before the wedding.  They broke up a few months later.  And then I m/c a few weeks after that.  So much for our plans.

So, obviously, I'm going to say keep moving forward with your plans and then figure it out from there.  (I'm not saying your brother will call off his engagement, just that you never can predict the future.)

e_uecker

Gummybear:

I am with your mom. I am a FIRM believer in not changing your life because of TTC. I don't skip glasses of wine, fun outings like rollercoaster, xrays or other tests because I *might* be pregnant. Likewise I would not stop TTC because I *might* be big and pg. and a bad time.

I completely agree with this. You can't miss out on life because you are trying to get pregnant. I hope it all works out!

JulsW

I agree! Go for your life. That is what is important. And if you waited and then for whatever reason still couldn't go you would always wonder what if. Live your life for today and for what you know now. Tomorrow is tomorrow and it can wait! GL

kathymarie

Like many of the PPs said, I would NOT alter your plans to TTC.

Planning a wedding across an ocean and on another continent has it's drawbacks. One of which is that not everyone will be able to attend.

This is YOUR life. Do not put it on hold for someone else's.

 

Here's to hoping you miss your brother's wedding  

pennynjon

I would ttc. I wouldn't put my life on hold for that long. I am sure your brother would understand.

butterfly843

I would still ttc, you can always see the video or pictures if you can't go. Plus you can always have a dinner to celebrate their marriage at your house after the wedding if you aren't able to go.

maddiemoon43

kathymarie:

Like many of the PPs said, I would NOT alter your plans to TTC.

Planning a wedding across an ocean and on another continent has it's drawbacks. One of which is that not everyone will be able to attend.

This is YOUR life. Do not put it on hold for someone else's.

 

Here's to hoping you miss your brother's wedding  

Well said.