DH volunteered me to babysit (vent)

Lizard2022

So I was out of town last weekend with DS, and DH needed someone to watch my stepson, 9, who stayed at our house instead of going to his moms to go to a sleepover.  DH's sister said she would watch SS on a Sunday 10-4pm so he could go to work if I watched her kids this Saturday night.  DH agreed without asking me.  Now I'm stuck watching her two undiscplined hooligans, 7 & 9, on Saturday from 6pm-12am so she can go to a concert.  Does this seem fair?

I really wanted to call my SIL and say I can't watch them that late, but
I don't want to start something and she is a total drama queen, ( i.e. she didn't come to DS's b-day party because she was mad at her other sister).  I'm just kinda pissed.  Vent over.

janinekrause

Where is DH saturday night? what time do they go to sleep- are you going there or vice versa?

jenn11980

I can understand why you are mad, except it isn't your SIL's fault that your DH volunteered you without asking.  I would be more upset with DH.  Will DH be home and you can make him responsible for watching SIL's kids?  

Lizard2022

No DH will be at work.  I just hate the fact that because I will be sitting at home with DS its assumed I'm available to babysit.  I'm not mad at SIL, I just wish DH would ask me first.  I really dislike her kids and I also don't trust her with DS so I don't really want her to pay me back with babysitting.

kiwi443

I agree with the previous poster, this is a DH issue, not a SIL issue. I would suck it up this time and then make it very clear to your DH that you want to be consulted about any future babysitting.

jenn11980

Lizard2022:

No DH will be at work.  I just hate the fact that because I will be sitting at home with DS its assumed I'm available to babysit.  I'm not mad at SIL, I just wish DH would ask me first.  I really dislike her kids and I also don't trust her with DS so I don't really want her to pay me back with babysitting.

 Maybe casually mention to SIL that DH never bothered to ask you.  Not that it would change the fact that you are baby sitting, but maybe she would ask you next time instead of your DH.   Also, DH needs to repay you in some way.  Maybe some time to yourself to get a massage or just do something for yourself since he put you in this situation.  Good luck on Saturday.

Lizard2022

jenn11980:

Lizard2022:

No DH will be at work.  I just hate the fact that because I will be sitting at home with DS its assumed I'm available to babysit.  I'm not mad at SIL, I just wish DH would ask me first.  I really dislike her kids and I also don't trust her with DS so I don't really want her to pay me back with babysitting.

 Maybe casually mention to SIL that DH never bothered to ask you.  Not that it would change the fact that you are baby sitting, but maybe she would ask you next time instead of your DH.   Also, DH needs to repay you in some way.  Maybe some time to yourself to get a massage or just do something for yourself since he put you in this situation.  Good luck on Saturday.

Thanks.  I just needed to get my pissy out.  SIL is such a drama queen I don't want to start trouble and she just wanted some free babysitting, also no one ever wants to watch her kids because they are such a pain.  I really can't blame her. Oh, DH owes me.  I'm not sure when I get a chance to cash in, since he works so much, but I'm getting something.

 

kiwi443

Lizard2022:

jenn11980:

Lizard2022:

 

Thanks.  I just needed to get my pissy out.  SIL is such a drama queen I don't want to start trouble and she just wanted some free babysitting, also no one ever wants to watch her kids because they are such a pain.  I really can't blame her. Oh, DH owes me.  I'm not sure when I get a chance to cash in, since he works so much, but I'm getting something.

 

There are some people in my life like that. I can totally empathize.

mieuxmieux

I would just suck it up and do it. It isn't SIL's fault that your DH volunteered you.

But... DH would be in the dog house. He owes you big time.