I'm not going to lie ....
... but this is HARD!
I guess I kinda knew it would be, but man oh man! One baby would have been hard, two is just an everyday battle. The sleepless nights/days, the every 2-3hr feedings, the constant spit-ups, the screaming fits at all hours and pooplosions that come out of the diapers and onto the swing/comforter/crib mattress, etc.
I have to be thankful though, because Nicholas has been such a charm these past few days. He's truly SUCH a GREAT kid. He's not giving me any trouble, no jealousy type of attitute, nada. He even tries to *help* in his little way....and I find him constantly looking for his little bros when he hears them crying.
There have been many nights where (i'm not kidding) my DH has found me sitting on the couch crying hysterically thinking "How are we going to do this?" I think he thinks i've gone completely insane ... who knows maybe I have? and I tend to wonder, would I be feeling differently if this 2nd pregnancy had been planned?
I am just begging for some sleep right now, a clean house and some adult interaction .... and as much as I hate to admit this, can we please FF to a few months from now?
No need to respond, I guess I just needed to get this off my chest and write it down so I can let go of these awful feelings i'm having right now...
Nicholas Jacob born on 06/30/2009, 9.5lbs and 21 1/4" long
Joshua Scott 5.3lbs & Jonathan Matthew 6.2lbs, born 08/31/10
Re: I'm not going to lie ....
Aw... super big hugs!!! Mommy needs her own Time Out!
And I second the idea of hiring someone to do some cleaning for you. It's a expense that most definitely will be worth it, for your own sanity.
I honestly cannot even IMAGINE!! OMG do I feel for you!
Is there any chance some friends or family or a hired hand can help you guys out?? Even an hour a day for a quick shower alone or something?
Hang in there!!
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This exactly! I know things are different with multiples AND a toddler but just remember how everything seemed impossible the first weeks after bringing Nicholas home. This phase will pass.
I'm so sorry. Vent away. The only thing I can say is the sleep deprivation is a killer and will cause you to lose it. Can you get some help so you can get more sleep? I hope things improve soon!
Awww, hugs! Just remember a clean house does not matter at this stage, nor does a home cooked meal.. it is survival mode - make things as easy as possible! Of course this is hard, you have three little ones that need YOU right now, but things will get better!
Oh you poor thing! I wish I were able to help. I remember that feeling of being so overwhelmed with just one. I too would be crying right along with the babies.
Bless little Nicholas for being a good boy for mommy. Puts a smile on my face picturing him looking around for his brothers. I really hope you can get some help even if just a couple days a week.
Bea, I am so sorry! Can you ask some ladies at your church to come help out a bit? I wish I could be there to do it. ((3xHUGS!))
awwww, man, I did not expect such an outpouring of love! you ladies are such wonderful human beings.
Carla is 100% correct - I am strictly in survival mode right now, I don't even want to tell you the last time I shaved my legs, took a shower, had my toenails painted, brushed my teeth, etc (poor hubby). It's like I make an effort to do these things but them I get sidetracked and by the time I know it, it's already bedtime! As for DH, he is helping, much more than I expected, but then again he does have to get up at 4:30 (he does 10 hours days) and go to work, so I really don't push him that much. But he sees that I am beyond exhausted and does the best that he can too. My MIL is physically unable to clean, babysit, etc so she does the next best thing and provides a meal every once in a while .... which is a true blessing. My parents went back home (for a few weeks) for some unexpected business, otherwise they would be helping a great deal. Other than than, that's all I have. I've pretty much been doing this solo and will for a while longer. My GF all have their own kids and lives and i'm not going to ask them for help. They have enough going on.
After reading all of your wonderful posts I kinda feel bad now...People have bigger problems and here I am rambling on. Also, I see RSD12 that has 3 of her own and she can handle it and I feel bad in that I hope I didn't scare && at all ...
It's just stressful all around, there is other stuff that I won't mention going on as well that are only adding to my emotional state right now....but I wanted to thank you all for your wonderful thoughts and hugs. You all mean the world to me. thank you
I think you are a rockstar!! That is a lot to have on your plate! Be easy on yourself and take one day at a time. I will be in your neighborhood in Jan - lets meet for a coffee!!!
Ohhh I would love to, just let me know when ....
Oh, you can't compare us ; )! You have it way worse (hee hee)! Having two newborns at the same time & a toddler - I had 1 that could help with a bunch of stuff & 1 that was old enough to go up & down stairs by himself. Plus I eased myself into the three kids thing! There are still days that I pull my hair out.
Let your friends know that you need some help, I bet they are just waiting for it.
Bea - You ask those friends of yours for a little help! Yes, they have families and things going on, but making an extra dinner or coming over to give you some help will not be a bother to them, they're you're friends! My guess is they'd be a little cranky at you for not asking. Better yet, talk to someone who knows several in your circle and have her organize so you just make one call!
Take care and hope you get some sleep! I can't imagine what it's like with 3!!! And for what it's worth, I hadn't even thought about shaving at this point when DD was home!!!!
DD -- 5YO
DS -- 3YO
Bea... Please call one of your friends for help. Ask if someone can come for an afternoon and give you a break. Housework be damned. Seriously... I know it feels good to have a clean house, but your rest is so much more important. Don't forget you just had MAJOR surgery. Please LET someone help if they offer. HUGE hugs to you. I know I would be fairing much worse. I had help (family) with one and was still completely stressed.
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It does get better. Hang in there. You will develop a routine and you will start to get sleep. If you are offered help - take it. If you need help ask for it from your family/friends. When the babies sleep you should sleep.
I'm not sure what your financial situation is, but if you can look into hiring help (temporary if needed) for chores, housework, yard work and such, that someone else can do for you. Free up your time for you and your family.
ahhhhhhhh....but you are so blessed.
One of my friends told me some quote...forget the exact words but something to the effect of "the days are so long but the years go by so fast."
Enjoy it while its here. In a few short moments you'll be dealing with battling over the car keys, college applications, and ugh....girl/boyfriends. Your kids are gorgeous.