I am wondering if I am the only one who seems to have lost friends once having kids. I am not talking about not having time, although that can factor in. But what I mean is it clearly seems as though friends actively distance themselves once babies are in the mix. I am sad and hurt over it, honestly.
I think it has to do with judgement. As in, some mommy friends are so sensative to who does what, how, when nonsense. Like I breastfeed, you don't, she makes her baby food, her baby doesn't sleep through the night, blah blah comparison and judgement. Either that or I really smell or something. I joke, but really I don't get it.
I don't understand all the judgement and comparison. I personally think observing and sharing different parenting approaches is cool, interesting and an opportunity for learning. I certainly don't think my way is best, or works for everyone.
Of course there might be other issues in play here, I just don't know. Jealousy, SAHM v. WM thing, whatever. I'm just whinny and hurt. I want to ask my friend WTF!?!?! Perhaps I will. Nicely of course, in a non-judgemental way