Maybe I'm Being Oversensitive?

Princess_Lily

Whenever DH and I are having a discussion and my mother is around, she won't stay out of a conversation, she'll either put herself in the middle of it or she'll comment later to me on the phone how either that DH is oversensitive or that she didn't like how he was acting...nothing bad, just sometimes he "barks."

 

My mother came to watch DS the other day, it was right after work.  DH was exhausted, DS was cranky, and so was I.  DH got upset because DS was being hovered over (because he was cranky) by my mom and I.  He kept saying, "He's fine...leave him alone...he's just cranky," but we we're still hovering.  So, DH decided to just go into the bedroom and cool down.  And like clockwork, the first convo we have of the day, she starts talking about how DH was, "Does he pay attention to you and the baby?" etc. etc.

 

Has anyone had this issue?  Should we (DH and I) have handled it differently? Am I being oversensitive?

NewFamily09

That sounds kind of annoying, but she probably just cares about you and wants to make sure DH is treating you right.  If she tries to ask you about stuff like that, I wouldn't tell her anything either way.  It's none of her business.

starlingrose

Yes my mom is like this too. She will take the bits and pieces she sees from my life (and she is very involved in my life) and then make assumptions and get worried. I dont think your dh did anything wrong at all and handled the situation perfectly. If my so was cranky and annoyed he would have done the same. Its alot better than yelling or something. We all need cool down time at the end of a long day, doesnt mean he doesnt want to spend time with you. Try to tell your mom you know your dh best and she isnt seeing everything.

Princess_Lily

NewFamily09:

That sounds kind of annoying, but she probably just cares about you and wants to make sure DH is treating you right.  If she tries to ask you about stuff like that, I wouldn't tell her anything either way.  It's none of her business.

 

See, I've told her that I understand where she's coming from, but she needs to stop, that I appreciate how much she cares.  But she needs to realize I'm not 12 anymore, and this is my marriage, we are happy, but just like everyone marriage is work.

I asked her nicely (countless times) to stay out of things, she soon apologizes, months pass without incident and then it happens again.