Wills - Do you have one?

kellialayne

DH and I don't and have no idea what would happen to DD if anything happened to us. I am an only child and DH has one brother. My SIL told me once she would never want to raise anyone else's child so they arent an option.  My parents or DH's parents arent an option.  Maybe my best friend?  It scares me to even have to think about this but I want to have everything in place just in case. 

grapeape73

We have a will all done.  We had to make another one when DD2 was born. 

My best friend named us as guardians of her girls if something happens.   DH's brother and SIL would take our girls if something happened to us, and DS would go live with my ex-h.

pawleygirl77

We do have wills (along with living wills and Healthcare Power of Attorneys) but seriously need to update them. I used to be a paralegal in the estate planning/probate area and insisted that DH and I get wills when we got married.

Right now we have the same issue as you.... don't have any idea who would take the kids. I don't want them to be moved far from where we currently live. That would just be too much on them.... but then again I don't want them to go live with somebody they don't see on a regular basis or aren't familiar or comfortable with. That leaves us with my parents and I just don't think that's the best option! There's lots to discuss on this topic....

Ciarrai

We do.  We had ours done when DD#1 was a few months old.  I was terrified the ILs would fight for custody and they're crazy.  I wanted supervised visitation written in the wills for them until the kids are older, but it's not there (yet).  Anyway, we ended up with my cousins.  Neither of my brothers were in a place at the time where they could take the kids and they still aren't there, but they're a lot closer.  My parents are older and while they would be great right now, I worry about them in their 80s trying to deal with teenagers and college kids.  Mom was devastated we didn't decide on them, but she understood.  Dad, I think, was happier for it, though he'd never say that.  As I mentioned, my ILs are nuts and were out as was my SIL and her DH for similar reasons.

Anyway, my cousins have three kids a few years older than my three.  They were always the ones we looked at and couldn't figure out how they did it and did it so well.  They are great parents with a similar parenting style to us as well as similar values and beliefs.  They are secure financially to where our kids wouldn't be a burden nor a "benefit" (in terms of our life insurance).  And they're just really wonderful people who we love a lot.  All of that played into our decisions and then we had to ask them, of course.  They joked about how many kids we'd want and at this point I totally understand that 6 would be a lot considering they would go from 10 years to 8 months, but hopefully nothing will happen.  If it does, I know the kids would be well taken care of.

FemmeNat01

Yes, we do. We did it in April. I'm too practical to not have one. My SIL and BIL will raise the twins (and this baby) if something happened to us.

Que*Syrah

We have one. It took us awhile to choose guardians for DS that we were comfortable with. Ours is pretty specific as well in regards to what happens to our assets and life insurance.