Worst Mommy Ever

Briellabella

Well, it's been awhile since I've last been on and it feels so good to be back

I haven't had a good nights sleep in weeks - DD wants me to hold her all night and never put her down. She won't let hubby hold her, just me. Between teething and gas pains (from trying new foods), she just screams and squirms and doesn't want to lay in her crib.

Among tons of other stress I'm dealing with, DD's crying has been irritating me lately and I feel so guilty about it. I've even been snapping at my older DD which makes me feel awful too.

Last night, I had to put DD down and walk away for a little while because her crying was making me feel like I was about to scream at her. Does anyone else get frustrated like that? Or am I a terrible mom?

What do you do when parenting stresses you out?

lilbit923

When I'm stressed out I text DH to come home and it's time for him to take over. When I get home from work, DH is usually 2-3 hours behind me. Sometimes people at his office want to talk alot when he should be on his way home. So a text message to him works.

If your DD is gassy, I'm not sure if you try warm baths and massaging her lower abdomen while she is in the water. Pressing her knees into her chest gently can help her expell gas too. Do you know if she's teething? There are options there to help soothe her for that.

 

12bailey18

Have you watched Teen Mom? You're definitely not the worst mommy ever...LOL. All joking aside, I think every mom has felt the way you do. You were smart to just walk away and take a few minutes to breathe and get yourself under control. Been there! When parenting really stresses me out, I rely heavily on DH when he gets home from work. I tell him when it's just been "one of those days" and he knows to take over for the evening. It helps me sooooo much. Could maybe DH step in more and help? I know you said DD doesn't let him hold her but maybe a little daddy/daughter time would be good and she'll warm up to him to give you a little break? Just a thought. You are definitely NOT alone in your feelings though!

Briellabella

I do push her legs up to help with the gas, but I am going to try warm baths and massages too.

I have teething tablets that I give DD, but sometimes she is just uncontollable.

I think my biggest issue is that we just moved to a new state, away from everyone we know, and I am a SAHM for the first time - which is a much more difficult job than any other I have ever had. The stress has me cranky.

 

Thanks for the advice though - it helps alot.

KateCupcake976

Your not the worse mommy ever. I get frustrated too and I just will put DD in her crib and walk to the other side of the house take a 2 minute breather and tell my self " I can do this" and then go comfort her. I know its kind of corny but that is what I do and it works for me and calms me down.

Briellabella

Thanks ladies...it feels great to know I'm not alone

lilbit923

Briellabella:

I do push her legs up to help with the gas, but I am going to try warm baths and massages too.

I have teething tablets that I give DD, but sometimes she is just uncontollable.

I think my biggest issue is that we just moved to a new state, away from everyone we know, and I am a SAHM for the first time - which is a much more difficult job than any other I have ever had. The stress has me cranky.

 

Thanks for the advice though - it helps alot.

Tylenol for teething dulls the pain so she can sleep. Do you have a swing you put her in, a vibrating chair perhaps? I know what you mean about the pain is so far gone you're not sure what else will work.

I think the efforts you're going through to ensure you are literally doing all you can for your daughter shows you are NOT the worst mother ever. Worn out? Yes. Stressed? Yes. We all are. Work is my break from my daughter. I love her so much but truthfully, if I didn't have some kind of adult interaction, I'd lose it.

You just moved and with that, leaving your comfort zone, no friends or family around...it's time you made new friends. Take your daughter to the park, go to the mall, see if your church has a woman's group or mother's day out program. Being a mother is hard. It's rewarding, time consuming, and can feel suffocating at times. Get you and your LO out of the house and maybe the new environment will be good for you both.

jojoh1008

When I get frustrated, I put Nick in his crib or PNP and walk away. Sometimes I'll put him in his swing, and he goes into total silence. He's like a zombie in that thing; when we take him out we know he really doesn't like being in it. It's weird.