Well, it looks like there is no way we can afford for me to take 12 weeks unpaid. All of our savings will be wiped out by adoption expenses, so it's not like we'd have savings to live off of.
Short of tabling adoption for another year (and being another year older) to save money specificially for leave, I don't see me being able to take a full leave.
The irony of course, if I'd given birth we'd have our savings and I'd get disability pay.
I should've realized this before tonight, obviously, but right now I am mad about it. I've had so much taken away from me, and now I don't even get to have a regular maternity leave?!