hi -- newbie here!

jc&cat

Hi girls- New to this board just ahead of the big 3-5. We're TTC for #2 and it's been a few cycles now without luck.

I have a first question for all that have been TTC for months now......how do you keep the fun going and the pressure down during all of this? DS came along fairly easily and now i think we're worrying too much about TTC this time around and well, i gues it's not as natural with all of this pressure. I'm pretty down about it this morning. Any thoughts?

GL to all of us -- looking forward to getting and giving support on this board

jcath

Welcome to the board and hope your stay here is short! 

I don't have any good advice - I can't even think of using fun and TTC together.  I actually said to dh this weekend "tell me what to do to get this over as fast as possible, I'm exhausted" actually we did laugh over that.

jc&cat

LOL, ok that makes me feel better! Thanks for the welcome

Classicoyote

Welcome. I wish I had some words that would make a difference.  We've been trying for 5 months with no luck and after a while it starts to feel like a job.  We decided to just relax and no worry so much about the time clicking.  Also remember, you are not quite 35.  I am 42 and wish I had those 7 years back.  But all we can do is move forward and hope for the best.  I wish you a BFP very very soon!  Best of luck and keep us posted.

marjoriemitchell

Welcome to the board. 

Sorry to say this but, I haven't seen fun since it last saw me when it comes to TTCing.  If someone comes up with an answer I'll be sure to try it out.

Again welcome.

rpm2009

Welcome and good luck.  I toally agree that TTC raises the pressure and sometimes it feels like a job.  DH and I struggled a little this weekend with making it fun.  I guess I get too wrapped up in making sure we "get it done" that it loses something.  We are trying to laugh about it though.  It doesn't help that we are both always so tired. . . .

aurora1974

I have found that the only time it really feels like a job is when we know I'm about to O.  Then it really feels like a job and there is no fun.  The easiest time we have just having fun is the time between when AF leaves and when the pink line is dark enough on the OPK.  Because there's no pressure for either one of us then, it's just enjoying each other.  Once the it's time for O, it becomes all about a job, but by allowing just the no pressure fun before makes it easier to take about it being more job like.

It is tough keeping the fun in it and the pressure down. Good luck to you.  And welcome to the board.

CityPixie

I would say go straight to a fertility specialist.  That way sex is fun and babymaking is sort of their job.  It's one way to look at it anyway.

Good luck.

-Pix

 

BwayDani

Welcome! And I agree with above posts...babymaking sex is not really fun, but if you make sure and have plenty of wild and crazy sex the other 3 weeks of the month, you will feel less stressed. As for pressure, the only things that helped me were keeping a strong network of friends who I can talk to about my fertility issues, and just recently, a counselor.  It's my time once a week to vent! Best of luck to you!!

sunnydaisy

Welcome and GL!

We're in the same boat with it being not so fun and more like work.  I try to mix it up a little to keep it from getting too mundane, because if we get in a rut, then he can't "finish".  And if that happens, it kinda defeats the whole purpose of babymaking sex. LOL!