"generous" = wrong.

missanne1983

it turns out i'm not dialated at all.  the nurse practitioner that i saw in place of my doctors absence last week was apparently very "generous" with her estimates of my cervical check up.  and my "generous" i mean...WRONG.

come to find out (today) that my doctor is telling me that i'm not dialated, my cervix is still closed, and the baby is at -2, which he explained meant that the baby hasn't dropped yet.  but he assured me that this is all normal for 38 1/2 weeks. (?)

i'm not at the "feeling hopeless" stage yet, but more anxious than ever.  has anyone else experienced something similar to my situation or stage? 

OliveBaby

That sucks. Talk about false hope man....

monkiem

I think I would be more sympathetic if you were over 40 weeks at this point, and weren't progressing. 

That said, plenty of women have been in your shoes.  It sucks, but it's the nature of the beast.

monkiem

Oops.  Sorry.  On the other hand, I would never, ever listen to the nurse practitioner.  Sorry.

Allie30

Eh, you can be "not dilated at all" one day and having the baby the next. It can happen like that. Never fear!

(Also not dilated, and with one week to go!)

HannahArthur

ughh I hate that!  I have had some really dumb practitioners.  We also had this med student follow us around until he screwed up and told me I needed genetic testing and counseling instead of an ultrasound.  I was a mess and he ended up getting into big trouble.  That said, I am 39 weeks and have not dropped, or effaced, or dilated.  Hang in there!

NillaWafers

I tend to put little faith in their estimations, even if you are dilated it doesn't mean you're going to pop out a kid in the next few days. It is nice to know some progress is being made, it makes me have hope that the end is in sight. Even if in the back of my head I know it really means nothing.

missanne1983

this is all very comforting to hear - thanks ladies

hewinked

A friend of mine had no progress at her 38 week appointment and her water broke that night.  Try not to get discouraged, anything can happen!

JBrianne

I'm 40 weeks today, not dilated at all, and the baby has not dropped all the way either. Not that I have *no* sympathy for you, but you're not at 40 weeks yet, so you've still got some time to make some sort of progress!

 

And like a PP said, lots of people go into labour without having 'progressed' at all and lots have 'progress' from 36 weeks on that go well past their due dates. Don't take it too seriously - I'm trying not to!

missanne1983

sorry - i gotta say that i didn't really realize that my post insinuated that i'm looking for sympathy?  i mean - most of us here are pregnant presently or have had children in the past, right? 

i guess i misunderstood that these message boards were for DISCUSSING topics, not women looking to rub out 'supposed pity-parties'.  i won't be posting on thebump in the future since i've gotten multiple snarky comments from a choice few of you...not that anyone should care.

to those of you who gave helpful and thoughtful comments, thank you sincerely

to the opposite, thanks a pant-load. get a grip.

 

LATER, BUMPS!

MSC03

Yet another reason why I'm not having internals until I'm actually due.

And the good news is that you could still go into labor at any time--when your body makes it's decision, it'll just start changing on it's own. Not everyone has a slow effacement/dialation.

MSC03

missanne1983:

sorry - i gotta say that i didn't really realize that my post insinuated that i'm looking for sympathy?  i mean - most of us here are pregnant presently or have had children in the past, right? 

i guess i misunderstood that these message boards were for DISCUSSING topics, not women looking to rub out 'supposed pity-parties'.  i won't be posting on thebump in the future since i've gotten multiple snarky comments from a choice few of you...not that anyone should care.

to those of you who gave helpful and thoughtful comments, thank you sincerely

to the opposite, thanks a pant-load. get a grip.

 

LATER, BUMPS!

 

And here I had resisted a snarky reply in hopes that you weren't as bratty and impatient as your original post made you sound... but I guess you are.

MJHershey

Whoa, yourself...

I bet its frustrating to be at that position and in a few weeks when i am there I bet I'll be annoyed too.... but I don't really see snark here just honest comments that you are not full term yet, so you have time. PPs are right, progress doesn't necessarily mean anything.

I am sorry you were set up for getting your hopes up.  Hopefully the next days/weeks prove otherwise.

missanne1983

MrsSummitCounty:

missanne1983:

sorry - i gotta say that i didn't really realize that my post insinuated that i'm looking for sympathy?  i mean - most of us here are pregnant presently or have had children in the past, right? 

i guess i misunderstood that these message boards were for DISCUSSING topics, not women looking to rub out 'supposed pity-parties'.  i won't be posting on thebump in the future since i've gotten multiple snarky comments from a choice few of you...not that anyone should care.

to those of you who gave helpful and thoughtful comments, thank you sincerely

to the opposite, thanks a pant-load. get a grip.

 

LATER, BUMPS!

 

And here I had resisted a snarky reply in hopes that you weren't as bratty and impatient as your original post made you sound... but I guess you are.

 

aha, well i wasn't talking specifically to you.  but gee thanks for sparing me from your snarky comment, you just made the cut to join the group of women on this site who are all so "mightier than thou".  you wanted a rise out of me i suppose?  well you got it.  

take a lesson from you kids kindergarten teacher, if you don't have anything nice to say - don't say anything at all.  

 

 

EDIT: i can't believe i just warranted a response to someone who's made 17K posts on this website.  GET A LIFE! 

MJHershey

missanne1983:

MrsSummitCounty:

missanne1983:

sorry - i gotta say that i didn't really realize that my post insinuated that i'm looking for sympathy?  i mean - most of us here are pregnant presently or have had children in the past, right? 

i guess i misunderstood that these message boards were for DISCUSSING topics, not women looking to rub out 'supposed pity-parties'.  i won't be posting on thebump in the future since i've gotten multiple snarky comments from a choice few of you...not that anyone should care.

to those of you who gave helpful and thoughtful comments, thank you sincerely

to the opposite, thanks a pant-load. get a grip.

 

LATER, BUMPS!

 

And here I had resisted a snarky reply in hopes that you weren't as bratty and impatient as your original post made you sound... but I guess you are.

 

aha, well i wasn't talking specifically to you.  but gee thanks for sparing me from your snarky comment, you just made the cut to join the group of women on this site who are all so "mightier than thou".  you wanted a rise out of me i suppose?  well you got it.  

take a lesson from you kids kindergarten teacher, if you don't have anything nice to say - don't say anything at all.  

 

 

EDIT: i can't believe i just warranted a response to someone who's made 17K posts on this website.  GET A LIFE! 

 

Oh FFS- and to echo your own words-- GET A GRIP!