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constant fighting btw sons.. help!

nmcmnmcm
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I am at my wits end with my two boys, 14 months apart, they fight constantly. Older DS is 2.5 and wants NOTHING to do with his 1.5 yo brother.. if the little one walks into the room older ds screams NO! If little DS touches any toy in the room that older DS might want , but isn't currently playing with he pushes him, grabs the toy, hits him, head butts him.. we do time outs, but that is SO not working. My older DS now vocalizes that he doesn't like his little bro, and it breaks my heart.. I ask him why and he says he bothers me.. 

 

I am not sure what to do, is this normal.. all I do know is that I can not continue living in a house with constant fighting all day long.

 

tia..  

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  • bacala1bacala1
    My friends sons use to do the same think. The older hated the younger and even use to hit when he was  baby. I haven't spoken to her recently so I do not know how they are now. So far my ds has done nothing but hug and kiss his little sister and I'm praying he will stay that way. Did your kids always fight?
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  • nmcmnmcm

    pretty much, they're 14 months apart so as soon as the baby started to be more mobile any love there was lost.. 

    if you speak to her give me the low down.. how old are they now?  

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  • luciagdelopezluciagdelopez member
    my little ones play well together but there are times when they like alone time.  My advice is to give them their space.  Distract the little one with an activity or something.  Hopefully absence makes the heart grow fonder.
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  • nmcmnmcm

    I dont want to sound like the negative person but trust me.. I take each out daily alone and it's worse when we get back.. they get use to getting all the attention and despise the other one more.. 

      

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  • AsquaredAsquared member

    my older one finally is restraining herself from hitting baby because we started spanking- she needed some empathy.  If I'm pissed off, I don't do it.  It's a consequence to show her she needs to stop or she'll be feeling the same.  when she takes a toy from the baby, I've just started setting a timer and she can't touch the toy (and it goes back to the baby) until the timer goes off and at that time she has to ask to play w/ it. 

    It's hard, but they'll learn   just don't give up- find what works... sounds like time-outs aren't.

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